My daughter (14) lives with her father and this arrangement has been great for the past 4 years. However he has recently moved in another woman. I say recently but more like a year ago (however it seems to have passed quick). At first DD said she liked this woman but had become more and more unhappy as time goes on. She says the woman makes it obvious she hates her living there and she is considering moving back with me. However I don't know if that is practical right now (school etc) and I'm not sure if she is just acting out because she's used to having her dad to herself. Examples she's given me is that for one thing, she has to be up in her room after 9pm and the OW moans if she comes downstairs for anything saying they never get any peace (but as far as I know she does the same with her own kids who also live there). DD has apparantly heard her telling her dad that it's "weird" for him to link arms with DD and if he keeps allowing DD to do that, she won't go out with them anymore. As a result of this, when DD tries to link arms with her dad he shrugs her off and tells her to grow up and says she's clinging which is obviously quite hurtful for her. Another thing she's not happy with is that she's used to her dad feeding her ALOT (I don't agree with this and have told him) and when he's at home, he still does this. However when the OW is cooking, she gives DD a smaller portion. DD see's this as a bad thing, should she go against her father in this way? I don't know because I have said before that he gives her too much on her plate. There are other things too like the OW talks her dad out of giving her lifts, money for phone top ups etc etc.
Should I even bring this up with her dad or is she just acting out? Things were fine up until a few months ago.
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How do I bring this up to her dad?
MrsUlrich · 03/10/2011 17:19
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