This isn't such a big deal when I think about what some of my friends and loved ones have to deal with, but I'm finding it hard to come to terms with, and would be grateful if anyone else who's been there too can offer some views.
After trying for a long time, I've had to admit to myself that things between me and my SD will never be good.
She's not a bad kid. She's just very, very angry - at her Mum and Dad (though she would never see it), but most of all at me. I wasn't involved in the break up but that doesn't make any difference. I can't ever break through that barrier.
I'm not able to have children myself, so it hurts more, but that's not her problem. It looks fine on the surface but it's really not.
Her Dad tells me she's just a teenager and every teenager hates their parents from time to time. I get that, but I am aware of deeper things.
There is loads of great advice on here about ow to handle particular situations. But this isn't really about situations. We've been through enough of them to know I can survive them without throwing myself or her out of the window.
This is just about having to admit the reality of the situation, and finding that very hard.
I really envy my friends with their 'real' families (yes, I know a blended family is also real, but it doesn't feel like that when you don't get on). I know that no family is perfect, but there is (unless something has gone very wrong) that unconditional love there.
Sorry, I hope this makes sense and thanks for reading.
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isithometimeyet · 09/09/2011 11:08
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