Hello all, this is my first ever post and I'm looking for some advice as to how me and my partner can help his daughter (6 in a few months).
My partner and his wife separated just after their daughter turned 2. It was amicable at the time but things have turned very acrimonious after the arguing over money and access to kids. Things are so bad that my partner has been advised by the police to have no direct contact with his ex, or to be alone with her at any point, as she has made several false allegations. This means they do not discuss concerns about the children (although to be fair, she refused to discuss any issues with him before their relationship reached this point).
SD is now almost 6 and I have known her for nearly 3 years now. She was almost toilet trained when I met her and became fully so a few months later. However, since summer 2009, she regularly soils herself. Her mum has treated this as a medical condition and gives her lactulose or movicol frequently. The GP has stated she suffers from severe constipation and she leaks around her hardened stools. I don't agree with mum's approach (although I do give her a herbal laxative at the start of her stays to clear her system) and would prefer to find out why this is happening. We have tried many, many different approaches but accept that we are facing a big hurdle given the relationship between mum and dad (mum has also refused mediation). There have been several unsettling factors in her life in the past few years - her dad has had another child with me, her mum has had (and split up from) 2 bfs, her mum has recently had a baby (and the kids were told to keep it a secret from us) and we are getting married very soon - so I think there is more to this than just toilet training but I may be over-analysing!
We just don't know what to do now and are very worried that she is going into year 1 and still soiling herself. We've just got back from our holiday and she actually passed a solid stool into her knickers, she was distraught. Any advice anyone?
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Mummy2May · 20/08/2011 14:47
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