Sorry, just have to get this off my chest! Some of you know my situation - DH has two sons, older one lives with his mum, younger one left after very difficult time at his mum's and has lived with us since.
EXW has been very difficult over pretty much everything and has extremely poor relationship with younger DSS, blaming him for "deserting" her but mostly for the impact this has had on her financially (no longer receives maintenance for him, child benefit or tax credit).
DSS has dealt with situation very well. His brother however has recently been brought into the middle of things. EXW wife has told older DSS he is not allowed to invite his brother to their house (is school holidays, we live in walking distance and they'd love to spend time together during the day time). EXW has also stopped older boy from visiting us for the occasional meal during the week by basically emotionally blackmailing him. Suspect weekend visits will now be in jeopardy too. She has threatened this anyway. Unfortunately and understandably he is going along with her wishes as he feels it's more important to keep her happy and not go against her wishes, although he can see she's being unreasonable.
This kind of behaviour is not unusual from her. Just a bit exasperated at what we can do - presumably nothing really without it becoming a drama which she would absolutely love.
My other concern is that we have a weekend booked abroad with both boys soon. If she decides at last minute not to let him go that's money, opportunity and family time wasted. I'm tempted to give his place to someone else (younger DSS's best friend) and pay for the airticket change now, rather than have a wasted opportunity, although that would be punshing the older boy myself in practice which I want to avoid!!
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ladydeedy · 10/08/2011 11:33
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