Hello everyone - I'd appreciate some advice. It's really obvious that communication about the kids (DSS & DSD) bypasses me.
Today's been a good example, DSD (7) phoned this morning and asked to speak to her Dad to make some arrangements about collecting them tomorrow. These are arrangements that I could just have easily made with her as I was just as likely to be the adult collecting them.
Then, this evening, a schoolfriend's dad has just phoned to make arrangements about his daughter coming back to ours tomorrow and staying for tea - again I answered the phone but he asked for my DP rather than make the arrangements with me.
I'm not upset about it (I've got a much thicker skin these days than to worry about a tiddly little thing like this!) and I entirely appreciate that this may be the usual situation in many households but we don't want it to be the norm in our family - so have any of you guys made the shift so that these sorts of communication are more 50/50?
I don't want to step on their Mum's toes and so I'm not expecting her to communicate with me on an equal basis if she doesn't want to. All her communication is still with my DP. But in terms of other people - what have you guys done to make the balance more equal?
Thanks in advance for any perspectives or pearls of wisdom.
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mdoodledoo · 25/07/2011 21:27
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