Long long long backstory - too long to get into, but I have known DSD for 7 years since she was 4 and we really hit it off from the beginning - we have always had a great relationship (a few ups and downs, but on the whole ok) up until about a year ago.
Having said that, she is very spoilt - has everything material you could possibly want, is allowed by DH to do whatever she wants when she is here, and if she does something wrong he doesn't ever correct her or tell her off.
Over the past couple of years I've been trying to steer DH towards being more disciplined with her, because I know when the teenage years come, she is going to be a nightmare. She has been through a lot on her mum's side of things and I feel that she needs structure and boundaries.
On the odd occasion, I have had to step in and say something to her eg if she is doing something dangerous, or if she has been cruel to ds. If she is ever corrected or told off for anything, by either me or her dad she always rolls her eyes, storms off or starts crying. TBH, my 2yo behaves better.
I am starting to get really fed up with it all now. When she is here, I feel like a visitor in my own house, and like I am treading on eggshells all the time. I am not deliberately going out of my way to be mean to her, just treating her the exact same way I would if she were my own child.
Apart from the odd eye roll, stomping off etc, the rest of the time she acts as if I am the best thing since sliced bread - a few weeks ago she told me that if her mum died she would be so happy that I would be her mum. However she then goes home and tells her mum that she hates me .
I know it sounds awful, but I just really really don't want to see her at the weekend. I don't feel like I can put on a front and be normal with her - it all seems so fake.
I have spoken to DH and he wants to sit down all together and talk about it, but I think this will make her uncomfortable and she will just run off to her room or lie.
Talking to her mother is not an option as she is so unreasonable and DH and I do not have a good relationship with her.
Any advice appreciated - TIA.
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Not looking forward to DSD coming this weekend
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LordIt · 19/07/2011 16:17
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