my husband has 2 children from a previous relationship...boy at 6 and girl at 5. they stay with us every fri and sat night and go back to their mum sunday at 4pm. we have had 2 years of ups and downs with her. at one point she stopped all contact for no reason. lately she has started making their 5 yr old girl wear crop tops....which have a label in them of age 11 to 12 years!! we both seriously disagree with this as we feel a 5 year old should not wear crop tops. they dont even fit her!!! she has been sending her over in them and we havent sent her back in them. she asked why and asked for them back and my hubby told her that a little girl shouldnt be wearing them. she responded with things like....shes growing up you need to accept it.....it gives her confidence....it has taken me a long time to build her confidence and wearing them makes her confident etc. she has no confidence issues at all, her teachers tell us she is the most popluar in class etc. she is a little girl and shoudlnt be wearing them for at least another 5 years!!! her mum just cant see our point and it is confusing the girl. her mum told her to tell us that she feels comfortable in them. my hubby asked her why she said that and she said "bcos mum told me to say it to you". its really getting to us bcos there isnt anything we can do about it. she upset the 6yr old friday by not lettin him bring any toys over because we would apparantly throw them away. he cried for ages and told us he knows we wont throw them away and he hates his mum. its so hard for us to see them upset we just dont know what to do. today she has demanded to know our address and says legally she has a right to know and will stop contact if we dont tell her. the children are due to come on holiday with us for a week in july....which she requested!! we had already booked to go and she asked us to take them....which we werent going to do bcos its still term time. so now the kids are gonna be devastated bcos she will stop contact and they wont be able to come on holiday. she just puts them through so much upset time and time again for no reason.
sorry for the loong story i just feel lost :(
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stepmumLucy · 20/06/2011 23:08
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