Not sure that this is the correct area to post in but having lurked for a while I know that you'll be more understanding than all most other topics.
I seperated from my H just over 18 months ago and at the time he refused to move out of the marital home. So me and our DD moved out into rented accomodation. It was always known by him and me that he wouldn't be able to afford to keep the house on, on his own, once I took my name off the mortgage. So the inevitable has happened; he is finally moving out into a new home at the end of next month and me, DP, DD (and DSD when she's with us) are moving in to what is my former marital home. Me and DP have no issues with this (although don't quote me on that the first night I sleep there!) but are acutely aware that this is the house where DD has gone to when she stays with her daddy ever since we split up. To that end she will see it as his house (it was mine before me and H got together but in DD's living memory she will never recognise that, nor should she perhaps?).
So what I really need help on is how do we start to broach the subject with DD (when I say we I mean me, H and DP - it's all fairly amicable and me and H will be able to present a united front from both sides of the fence) to help her through what could be a very confusing time for her? She's 4 1/2 yo and fairly astute (she once asked me if we were 'borrowing' the house we live in - I've never once mentioned that our current abode is rented so not sure where she picked it up from) and H has already started packing boxes so she's aware he's moving house. How can I phrase it so that she sees it as a positive experience?
On the plus side, DD and DSD get on like a house on fire and DSD is really excited about chosing the stuff for her new room (currently DSD has to sleep on DD's floor when she stays as we're in a 2 bed place - we're all looking forward to moving into a bigger house with more space!).
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Moving back into former marital home - how to explain to DD?
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Newdaynewpants · 02/06/2011 12:44
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