I have a 13 yr old dsd, we get on well and she stays with us a couple of times a week.
The long and short of it is that I think her dad (my dh) spoils her rotten and it annoys me! I think she is a lovely girl but that she is not independent enough and takes too much for granted. Now I know this is just my opinion really and I don't know whether to take a deep breath and let it go because that is what my dh wants or whether to try and change things.
Examples of her being spoilt are: never having to do any chores at our house, not bothering to put rubbish in the bin, she leaves sweet wrappers and cans wherever she has been (and dh picks them up if I say he should ask her to pick them up), asking her dad to get up and get her a can from the fridge cos she is tired... (and mostly he does), leaving her shoes / bag in the middle of the room, getting a new phone for her birthday and an iPod touch for Christmas, getting my mac book to use at home to do her homework (otherwise my dh would have bought her a new one! Which we can't afford)...
I think she should have to do some clearing up- she is 13! Some washing up and putting stuff in the bin- at least if it isn't in her room. I also think it does young people good to want stuff and not get the best of everything particularly if they don't look after things they already have. She has already broken the screen of the iPod touch and thankfully she had to give one months pocket money towards fixing it, but still another £60 between my dh and her mum!
Am I just being a moany old bag? Or am I right in thinking that it won't help her respect nice things and be respectful?
Bit of perspective please...
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Should I just take a deep breath and let it go....
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Sistermoondance · 25/04/2011 19:33
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