I'm a newbie and wanted to say Hello. I have a 16-month old daughter and a 7-year old step daughter. I live between Brixton and Camberwell and would love to hear from anyone in the same situation who lives locally to me.
My partner co parents as it is a joint custody arrangement, therefore we have my SD every other week for a whole week so I see her as much as she sees her own mother. I came into my relationship under 4 years ago and moved in within 6 months after- all very quickly. Although I love her- I dont seem to have the same feelings for my SD as I do my own daughter- which I find hard to accept at times, feelings of guilt and resentment and sometimes anger, even anxiety and low mood plague me at times. I do try and focus on the positives and the relationship between my daughter and my SD which is really positive as they have a great bond!
I sometimes find the whole nature of being a step mother very isolating, mainly as I dont know any other mothers with children the same age, none of my friends have children the same age only toddlers- we all started parenting late! The school is not great socially and we dont have alot to do with kids from school so my SD doesnt have many friends she can play with- this puts added pressure on us. Our families live 50 miles out of London too.
Anyway have any of you experienced anything similar or have any tips?
Hello, just saw this and thought I'd reply as sounds like you live so near - I'm by Loughborough Junction.
I'm a newbie (to mumsnet) and am not yet a step-parent. Have been with dp for about 19months and he has 2 DCs but I've not met them yet.
Am an avid reader of this forum though - look for insights to both inform / alleviate my general terror at the prospect of stepn parenting (don't have children of my own and am also quite young to be in a relationship with someone with 2 kids in my view)
Anyway, longwinded way of saying 'Hi, fellow Brixton dweller!' x