I'm a mum of one incredibly well behaved 6 year old girl. Her dad and i have been separated since her birth and he has very little sporadic contact (his own choice) with her. 2 years ago i fell in love with a childhood friend. We were together long distance for a year and then moved in together near where he is based and 6 months ago we got married. He is divorced with 3 children of his own (11, 18, 20) and the 18 year old boy lives with us too. In the last year I've been very happy and the relationship is going well. I so want my daughter and husband to develop a close relationship and my husband is making every effort to do this. Howeverm every attempt is rejected by my daughter and she, on occasion, is rude to him. (e.g will only ask me to leave the dinner table not him, won't sit next to him, won't cuddle him, sometimes won't say goodnight or good morning to him, rejects attempts at interaction). I don't know what to do. I tell her off for being rude to him because i think it is unacceptable and that she is just being stubborn. However, I also think that perhaps this is her only form of protest to express that she finds the situation difficult (we have spent 5 years just the two of us, bar a one year relationship in which we lived with another partner). He is a very good dad but has quite a teasing manner which she is not used to.
I desperately need advice about how to help her to express her feelings about the situation instead of behaving badly towards him and also how to manage mine and his hopes and expectations. What can i do?
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mumoflittleone · 28/11/2010 18:28
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28/11/2010 20:41
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