Am I being unfair?

[Andy0707]

Hi, I would like your opinion on an argument me and and my wife are having on who's being unfair. I recently took up golf as a hobbie. All my friends play it and after initially wondering whether it was for me, I loved it. My friends play twice a month (every other Sunday) and I approached this with my wife as something I would like to do. She quite rightly wasn't happy about this as I work a weekend day and that would mean we don't get a family day each week for me and wife and our 4 year old to spend with each other. I agreed to play once a month when I could get the other day of the weekend off and my wife equally would have a day each month away from family life. This didn't work as I used to have look after my son on Thursdays and getting a whole third day off was impossible. My wife also doesn't have any hobbies and found it hard to busy herself one day each month. My job is quite flexible so we came up with the idea that I play and work on the same day, that way we still get our family day each week. I then came up with one better and said I would work only a half day and then make up the hours in the week, still not affecting my obligations on drop off and pick ups. This meant I could play golf and see my friends and still be home at the normal time I would be. This month I wanted to play golf twice. Not the norm but It's not always able to play as I can't always move work around. And she is now saying this is unfair due to the fact I can move work around for golf and don't do it normally to spend more family time. I don't have any other hobbies, don't go out during the week, don't plan to see my friend apart from golf and we share drop offs and picks and other childcare commitments. This is the only time I see my friends on my own. Am I being unfair?