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Do you have any questions about family mediation? Ask a panel of experts here – £100 voucher prize draw!NOW CLOSED

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KathrynMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 05-Jan-15 12:26:12

The Ministry of Justice has sponsored a panel of family mediation experts to answer any questions you may have about family mediation. The panel comprises the Minister for Family Justice, the Rt Hon Simon Hughes MP; Glynne Davies, Family Mediator for more than ten years and Robin ap Cynan who is a lawyer with more than 25 years’ experience as a Family Mediator - both are Board Members of the Family Mediation Council.

Here’s what they say, “January is the month when many people start looking for information about splitting up. If you are in that situation with your partner, or you know someone who is and you would like to find out how family mediation can help to sort out child arrangements, money and property, get involved and pose a question to our panel of experts.”

“Family mediation:
•Gives you more say about what happens. In court a judge will make the decisions. With mediation you and your ex decide.
•Works to improve your communication and helps you sort out your future.
•Is easier on your children when parents co-operate and helps them continue important family relationships.
•It can be quicker, cheaper and provides a longer lasting way to sort out family breakdown rather than drawn-out court battles.”

“1257 successful agreements were reached in family mediation in England and Wales between July and September 2014. This represents two thirds of funded family mediation cases.”

Post your questions to the panel on this thread by 12th January and we will send 20 questions over to them to respond to. We will then post a link to their responses on the thread on 19th January.

Everyone who adds a question (regardless of whether it’s answered or not) will be entered into a prize draw where one Mumsnetter will win a John Lewis vouchers to the value of £100.

Thanks and good luck,

NoMoreDelays Fri 13-Feb-15 10:21:24

Why wasn't my question answered?

MichelleMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 04-Feb-15 13:49:15

Hi everyone, you can now view the answers to your questions by clicking here.

MichelleMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 22-Jan-15 09:34:06

NoMoreDelays the answers will be posted on a different page but we'll post a link here once it is live. This will most likely be at least another 2 weeks.

NoMoreDelays Wed 21-Jan-15 22:19:51

Any replies yet please?

MichelleMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 12-Jan-15 12:50:40

Thank you, everyone, for all your questions. This thread has now closed and we've sent off 20 questions to be answered by the family mediation panel. The answers will be posted on their microsite next week and we'll post a link here to the answers once they are available.

Congratulations to clopper who has won the prize draw for a £100 John Lewis voucher! We'll be in touch soon.

Kathderoet Mon 12-Jan-15 01:26:10

How is what is agreed upheld? if the courts decide someone is to be allocated so much in child support or how a pension is to be divided they have the law behind them to ensure payment. Will this service have the same legal backing?

sanfairyanne Sun 11-Jan-15 22:14:28

what evidence is there about the settlements received via mediation vs those received via judge/solicitors? essentially, do women come away with less money?

Theimpossiblegirl Sun 11-Jan-15 22:08:35

£300 pound an hour? I want to change my question.

How does one train to be a mediator? What skills, training and qualifications are needed?

Alchemist Sun 11-Jan-15 21:43:00

I was quoted £300 per hour for a mediator in East Sussex.

I wish I could afford the services.

bobs123 Sun 11-Jan-15 20:54:22

If mediators cannot give advice how can you know you are getting a fair settlement?

It appears the only way to ensure is when both sides also have a solicitor to defer to after every meeting. This of course adds substantially to the costs and while the mediator is trying to facilitate an agreement the solicitors appear to have their own agenda.

Lalalalandlord Sun 11-Jan-15 19:53:29

What options are there other than mediation and going to court?

Baconknickers Sat 10-Jan-15 22:17:03

How much does mediation cost generally?

NoMoreDelays Sat 10-Jan-15 15:58:01

Is it better to go to a mediator who is also a qualified family lawyer? How can a mediator who is not a lawyer ensure that any agreement the parties come to is fair?

ataraxia Fri 09-Jan-15 22:53:06

Can older children have a voice in the mediation process?

Hopezibah Fri 09-Jan-15 21:17:10

Is it a legal requirement to try mediation first or is it still optional?

Maiyakat Fri 09-Jan-15 12:58:30

What happens if one of the parties does not stick to the agreement? Can you return to mediation or would you then need to go through the courts?

KateOxford Fri 09-Jan-15 02:08:26

Are the decisions reached through mediation legally binding, as you don't go to court or is it more of a counselling arrangement whereby you are encouraged to reach an amicable agreement on matters.

WowOoo Thu 08-Jan-15 14:03:59

I would like to know why the costs are so high and what you would suggest for families that cannot afford such costs.

chancer2014 Thu 08-Jan-15 06:38:26

Who calls it a day when mediation doesn't appear to be working? How long can these communication issues go on for? There must occur times when one party thinks it's hopeless yet is encouraged to to continue. Who decides when mediation isn't working and what is the criteria for defining this?

clopper Wed 07-Jan-15 23:00:59

Do mediators have to study for particular qualifications? What happens if either party ignores an agreement reached through mediation? People have mentioned high costs- what are the average costs?

Lasvegas Wed 07-Jan-15 14:01:09

How do you find a family mediator. Is there a professional body ie RICS for surveyors?

kesie123 Wed 07-Jan-15 11:25:18

If a financial agreement is reached at mediation is it then turned into a legal agreement through a lawyer? If not, how can it be enforced if one party doesn't stick to it?

Itchylegs Tue 06-Jan-15 20:20:09

I would also like to know what kind of training the mediator goes through.

Emrob86 Tue 06-Jan-15 16:16:14

What education has a mediator got?

Lulabellx1 Tue 06-Jan-15 16:10:36

Mediation is easier and less stressful than going to court! If children are involved, it’s easier for them if their parents co-operate and can help maintain important family relationships as well.

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