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Getting your DC to sleep can be a challenge worthy of an award. It can be especially difficult when your children change the way they respond to toys, songs, or any other sleep aids you have in your parental arsenal. To celebrate the launch of their new Moon and Me Toy range, Hasbro would like you to share your tips for how you succeed in getting your child to sleep or what has helped you manage your child’s sleeping habits in the past.

Here’s what Hasbro has to say about their Moon and Me toys:
“Our lovable new toy range features favourite characters from the magical world of Moon and Me. From figures and play-sets that are perfect for playtime to soft plush that little ones will love snuggling with at bedtime! “

What are your tips and tricks for getting your children to sleep? Have you worked out a magic routine, or do you have a favourite sleep toy? Do you rely on sleep songs or other comforters to help you? Does TV make up a part of your child’s sleep routine? Who has a bigger say in picking up a sleep toy - you or your children? Does your DC already have a preferred sleep aid?

Please share your tips for getting your child to sleep below and you will be entered into a prize draw where one MNer will win a £300 voucher of your choice (from a list) and a toy bundle from the new Moon and Me toy range.

Thanks and good luck!


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onemorecakeplease Mon 22-Jul-19 14:24:54

Having a good routine helps - so shower, supper and then they read to me or I read to them.

Reading helps them chill out and wind down and it's a nice way to end the day.

helloswellow Mon 22-Jul-19 14:56:31

DS has a comforter bear/blanket thing and when we get ready for bed we have a cuddle and a singsong with bear and then it's eyes closed for bed time. It works well for us right now but it'll probably change one he's in his own room.

Asuwere Mon 22-Jul-19 15:04:38

I think routine helps, not necessarily strict but just a general bath, teeth, story, bed. Plus they have to be at least a little tired so keep them busy during the day!
My DC have gone through phases of cuddling something at bedtime but have never stuck with the same thing, just whatever they fancied that night.

BristolMum96 Mon 22-Jul-19 15:09:33

With my 2 year old I just put her to bed when she's tired. There's rarely fussing unless she's unwell. Quite firm with getting in bed, quick goodnight and leaving. She knows she can shout me if she needs something

bobsyourauntie Mon 22-Jul-19 15:20:56

DD is 11 now, but the trick to getting her to sleep has always been music. When she was a toddler it was In The Night Garden CD and over the years that progressed to Peppa Pig, Spot Stories, CD books, and now her own choice of music.

She hates the dark, so also has to have a small light on, we have progressed from an actual lamp to fake candles now which give a small glow.

When she was younger I also read to her every night which she loved.

Ribeebie Mon 22-Jul-19 15:46:13

Bath book milk and bed. My little one used to feed to sleep until the last month or so but usually goes down happily and is asleep within a few min. If he's not we have a light that projects stars into the walls and plays white noise/lullabies and that settles him within a few min. Having a routine is great but being flexible if it's not going to plan rather than being stressed about it is key.

daisyduke66 Mon 22-Jul-19 16:04:00

Night light and a bedtime story always worked wonders - I usually sat and sang lullabies too smile until fell asleep. TV never ever played a part in bed time routines.

voyager50 Mon 22-Jul-19 16:11:11

I find putting Classic FM on is very relaxing and I can set it on his arm clock radio to go off after a set amount of time - it is very soothing - I listen to it every night too.

AngelwingsPetlamb Mon 22-Jul-19 16:28:37

For the first 3 months of his life my dc refused to sleep for more than 1 hour at a time, he also suffocated colic.
The health visitors suggested I implement sleep training which was extremely difficult and heart breaking really. Every time there was crying I had to ignore it for 5 minutes before going into the bedroom, and also dc was moved out into his own nursery bedroom.
After 1 week it finally worked and he began to sleep through.
After that, we never really had any sleep problems as long as a bedtime routine was adhered to. This consisted of a regular bedtime, with a regular lead up to it consisting of being told that we would get ready for bed, having a bath, pjs on, choosing story, getting into bed and having story time and then lights out.
Drink and soft toys were in the bed and door was left ajar so I could hear if dc called, but usually he would be asleep in a few minutes, only waking on those odd times he had an accident.
I realised that blackberry squash was usually the culprit for some unknown reason and when we changed squash flavours it stopped happening.

TuesdaySunshine Mon 22-Jul-19 16:33:00

I was given this amazing book when I had my first baby and recommend it to every new parent. All of my DCs have been excellent sleepers and now that they're older they have good instincts about when they're tired and need to take themselves off to bed. I know I've been lucky and other people have a much harder time of it over sleep, but, honestly, the book rocks.

Otterses Mon 22-Jul-19 16:33:21

Singing 5 little speckled frogs while rubbing DS's back grin works every time.

MrsFrTedCrilly Mon 22-Jul-19 17:39:29

Now it’s a routine of shower story and bed.
A few years ago it was back-rubbing and singing and always the CBeebies Time has come to say good night song!

JC4PMPLZ Mon 22-Jul-19 18:02:10

The Old traditional way, bedtime stories, read out or invented. And a dim light.

3boysandabump Mon 22-Jul-19 18:18:24

I honestly think some dc are just better sleepers than others.

My first 3 were fantastic sleepers from a very early age. Dc4 will not sleep at all, ever no matter what we try 😫

powkin Mon 22-Jul-19 18:19:29

Routine. Bath fun, gentle lighting and change for bed, sleep song, comforter in the crib. We also use a pacifier.... but must wean her off!

Sierra259 Mon 22-Jul-19 18:37:02

I think a routine is probably the main thing. We stay with our DC until they fall asleep, which some people wouldn't agree with but it means they go to sleep much more quickly, and calm/cotent. We have also indulged some of the quirks they suddenly develop - our eldest would become really stressed about the dark, so we made breathing exercises part of our routine and agreed to leave the landing light on overnight. It's not ideal, but they'll grow out of it and again I'd rather have calm, happy children at bedtime if their demands aren't outrageous!

cornflakes5 Mon 22-Jul-19 19:14:26

A good routine and a breastfeed before bed always (nearly always...) gets DD drowsy.

m0jit0 Mon 22-Jul-19 19:21:03

Having a good routine, so bath/story/bed, make sure it's not too hot in their room, make sure they have a full tummy.

Caillou Mon 22-Jul-19 20:52:58

bath or shower after dinner and quiet time with books.

GinLimeandLemonade Mon 22-Jul-19 22:06:45

Breastfeed to sleep, super easy 🙌 Or books and then lying in the dark making up a story till they fall asleep 😄

emphasisofmatter Mon 22-Jul-19 22:22:36

I'll keep an eye on this thread! My eldest is a breeze. Dd2 takes ages to fall asleep and refuses to go to sleep. Always says "I need to tell you something" and tells me it's morning time not bedtime...

wellingtonsandwaffles Mon 22-Jul-19 23:01:13

Routine routine routine! Means DS will go to sleep anywhere - tent, abroad, at friends and families, as he’s used to dinner, teeth, TV, stories and songs happening at the same time, and then bed. I give him a toy to cuddle - it changes - and we put blankets on them and then on him.

kateandme Mon 22-Jul-19 23:02:43

What are your tips and tricks for getting your children to sleep?keep calm.try and keep them calm and let a slower atmosphere come into the house as the time for bed comes.
Have you worked out a magic routine, or do you have a favourite sleep toy?i think routine is both important for sleep and nice to have with the time.snuggle then sleep.and bath mixed in on those nights.if theyve had a bad day or something has happened whihc might cause a worse night then it helps to put pjs on eariler in the evening to get them feeling better and snugglier.
yes they have a toy/toys!and yes they chose them.though one is from what they were given when a baby.its a bit ragedy but is a fave.and a blanket.
Do you rely on sleep songs or other comforters to help you?if they need it.have one of those nursery tapes.and or little childrens sleep meditation podcasts
Does TV make up a part of your child’s sleep routine?a little yes.jut sitting with us usually.getting some downtime in.not in their own rooms though.
Who has a bigger say in picking up a sleep toy - you or your children? if sensible then of course them.
Does your DC already have a preferred sleep aid?cuddly toy.

Acm1989 Mon 22-Jul-19 23:10:09

I try my absolute hardest to stick to a routine with my youngest, especially now she had dropped her day time nap. So it will be bath,milk then bed. She uses a dummy and always takes a teddy in with her. Having some kind of comforter is very important and she doesnt settle without them. I usually stay in with her for a few minutes until she falls asleep, usually stroking her head. Shes finally sleeping through the night at 21 months, mainly due to not having a day time nap anymore. Its great smile

Theimpossiblegirl Mon 22-Jul-19 23:13:30

Routine, a calm environment and luck! I had one who would just drop off no problem and one who would fight sleep with all she had.

DuploRelatedInjury Tue 23-Jul-19 07:11:53

Having a bedtime, routine, once they're in their room don't bring them out again/turn on the big light. We used Ewan the sheep with both DC - worked great with DC1, DC2 not so much! I think there's an element of luck involved, some children are just good sleepers!

purpleclaire Tue 23-Jul-19 10:45:31

Both of my 2 (11 & 6) have always been good sleepers - even as babies. We still have a routine, in the bathroom, quiet time, lights off, kiss goodnight - try to read a story to the youngest, but they're often both tired after school or activities. My youngest won't go to sleep without Pink Rabbit , her comforter since she was born...and still sucks her thumb. My oldest will often read quietly for half an hour, before we turn out the light.

redbook Tue 23-Jul-19 11:23:36

I followed all of the advice - routines, baths, consistency, quiet time before bed, stories, don't nap too late etc and my DC was still (and still is) a terrible sleeper.

My advice is don't worry about it. There is so much pressure to have a good sleeper. Now, my DC - aged nearly 6 takes about an hour from end of story to falling asleep. He talks to himself about his day and often fights falling asleep as he would rather be awake. I just let him be.

caffeinebuzz Tue 23-Jul-19 12:02:08

Strong routine and clear boundaries during bedtime and any night wake ups. When we are inconsistent once usually due to exhaustion it always takes a couple of nights to get back on track.

sharond101 Tue 23-Jul-19 12:02:26

My children slept better when they got to th e stage of not needing milk at bedtime.

Jem01 Tue 23-Jul-19 15:59:27

With my 18 month old I give her a cuddle and a soft teddy that she then likes to cuddle. I pat her back and sing her a song (at the moment it is twinkle twinkle) she closes her eyes pretends to be sleeping and then I slowly leave the room. She will turn to look at me as I am leaving but I do say good night bed time, good night teddy. She mimics me and then she lays down cuddling her teddy.

For my 3 year old son I read him a story and then he too sleeps with his teddy. No cuddles or pats to sleep with him as he can soothe himself. We say goodnight to teddy and then I slowly leave his room.

This bedtime routine works well for them both (for now!) although at some point we will introduce a story for my 18 month old too.

Sleepthiefsmum18 Tue 23-Jul-19 20:45:15

Our almost 3 year old has become much more difficult to get to sleep lately. We've recently discovered that listening to a sleep story on a meditation app seems to help! I think any audiobook or CD story would work too.

ButtonMoonLoon Tue 23-Jul-19 21:48:39

My daughter has a sensory light in her bedroom which is on a timer and dims gradually. She also has an echo dot which we use to play music and stories through the audible app. She loves listening to a bedtime meditation or classical lullabies which help her to settle off to sleep.

zeromango Tue 23-Jul-19 22:55:13

It's book, cuddle, bum change, teeth brush, and then we put on white noise teddy and she's off!

Rodent01 Tue 23-Jul-19 23:40:16

Routine, routine, routine. If they know what’s happening, they know what to do.

No child is the same, so what works for 1, won’t necessarily work for another, you have to find your and their way to make it work.

(Plus in DD2’s case, having brown bunny and when she’s under the weather, me lying in the doorway with just my feet visible to her so she knows I’m there!)

MakeTeaNotWar Wed 24-Jul-19 09:50:19

Nothing new but it's a bath, brush teeth, story and a chat about the day, big cuddle then lights out

ohdannyboy Wed 24-Jul-19 10:09:22

I use a 'white noise' sleep toy, `DS1 has had it for a couple of years, it worked a trick when he was a baby, I am negotiating a withdrawal now as he is such an active boy he does not need to use it, I would highly recommend one to anyone with a restless baby.

jacqui5366 Wed 24-Jul-19 10:44:58

A pair of dinosaur blackout blinds to make the room dark and 'sleepy' to quote DS2, also the 'blanky' a baby blanket which is soft comfortable and has a 'warm fuzzy' smell to help drift off into dreams. For me - whatever works stick with it.

TrySinging Wed 24-Jul-19 15:32:00

We have a routine of eating together when DH comes home and then the DC go upstairs to have a bath/shower and they're not allowed back down. DD 6 gets a story and the others can read/go on gadgets for a bit. I'd rather they weren't using gadgets in the evening, but it's a battle I'm not going to win.

foxessocks Wed 24-Jul-19 16:00:19

Definitely routine, and they know that once it's bed time that's it, no coming back downstairs! Last wee before bed so no need to keep getting up and a drink in their room if needed. Two stories which they don't get until they are totally ready for bed!

Byrdie Wed 24-Jul-19 16:49:08

We swear by white noise then, as they get older, podcasts of bedtime stories helps massively. Roald dahl audio books are good too - but the ones where they are read by him as something about his voice sends them to sleep!

NewSchoolNewName Wed 24-Jul-19 17:17:40

We stick to our bedtime routine.

Bath, story, milk, teeth brushing and then tucked up in bed with their favourite teddy.

I prefer to avoid TV straight before bed as it tends to make my DC too bouncy to settle down to sleep well.

biffyboom Wed 24-Jul-19 19:33:11

My 5 year old has a good routine when I put him to bed, I get him to read to me, then I read to him. Then it's light off, and I stay with him till he falls asleep, usually 5 minutes.
I really struggle to get my 2 year old to sleep though, and dh usually gets her to sleep pretty fast. He struggles with the 5 year old. So it's pretty well balanced for us.
Secretly, I think we bore them to sleep as 2 year old wants me at bed time, and 5 year old wants dh really blush

Scoleah Wed 24-Jul-19 19:51:32

We Have always gone up to bed the Same time.
Started when he was in the Chicco next 2 me from birth.
Then when he was around 18months we changed to a cotbed next to our bed for 2 weeks before we transitioned into his own room, to save him wondering where we were whilst he was getting used to his own bed.

Then I think he got So used to the routine of him going to bed & thinking we had gone too he's always gone straight down!
He goes at 6pm-8am now and has done since transitioning to His cot.
(He's 3 now)

Routine is Vital I think!

Onlyahalfbottle Wed 24-Jul-19 20:05:09

DS was difficult to get into a routine but now we have one we stick to it! Bath, pyjamas, teeth then into bed with his two favourite toys, story and lights out. Then sometimes putting him back in bed when he's escaped to play with his trains!

boptanana Wed 24-Jul-19 22:59:47

If I knew I would tell you! We have tried everything over the last few years and nothing has worked confused

OnlyToWin Wed 24-Jul-19 23:56:31

DD1 was a brilliant sleeper and we had a routine for naps etc. She also sucked her thumb which helped, but she really was an incredible sleeper. I thought it must have been my marvellous parenting, then DD2 arrived and although we persisted with the routine it turned out that getting a good sleeper is a bit of the luck of the draw!!

Lindy2 Thu 25-Jul-19 03:29:12

We have a routine.
Stories followed by cuddles and then sleep.
If they are struggling to settle we have "magic sleep cream" which is a lavender hand cream that gets rubbed on their feet. If they have a cough or cold we use a menthol vapour rub.
It works well.

Montydoo Thu 25-Jul-19 07:23:46

We have a fixed routine which I TRY to stick to, if it's fine outdoors, we go for a walk, either in the pram on foot, and as I live in a semi rural location there are lots of farm animals to look at and fresh air to breathe in. It's bath at 7, a drink of warm milk and bed for 8. I have a dyson fan in the bedrooms (sorry about the advertising - but they are the coolest quietest fans - and worth the investment), so the environment is important too.

flowerpower32 Thu 25-Jul-19 07:33:47

Start early enough and have a good routine. Books to wind down

pushchairprincess Thu 25-Jul-19 10:41:01

Blackout blinds are a must (or blackout liners), and we dim the lights and draw our blinds around 6pm, and it's bath, (I use one with lavender - it seems to help), I am still using night time nappies, but it's still warm milk, a wee, teeth brushed and bed, I read a story, and put a dream in her head (unicorns and fairies) and she seems to settle most nights.

Aubasaurus Thu 25-Jul-19 14:32:30

No TV after tea is a rule we stick to. Bath, teeth, story at bedtime, and if they're restless when it's normal lights out time (like at the moment with the light evenings and hot weather) I promise to pop back to check on them if they're quiet. It usually works!

marymu Thu 25-Jul-19 15:32:17

I love to give him breastmilk.

twinkletoesl Thu 25-Jul-19 16:15:35

Routine routine routine !

Cotswoldmama Thu 25-Jul-19 18:24:06

I think it’s all about routine. It’s doesn't matter what that is as long as you stick to it. That way if your on holiday or they’re staying over with family or friends as long as their routine is the same getting to sleep is usually ok!

fishnships Thu 25-Jul-19 19:04:03

Children like routine - mine is bath then bed with one chapter of an Enid Blyton story - Brer Rabbit is an absolute favourite! This helps when they feel unwell, too.

Jaderice21 Thu 25-Jul-19 20:33:26

our routine is key we have the same routine all year I highly recommend a blackout blind perfect for these light evenings and great for not disrupting the routine

our routine works well for us and the children like it to as they know its the same every night

tv time usually well baths running
bed with a warm mil

Busylittlemum Thu 25-Jul-19 22:52:34

My top tips for getting my child to sleep are a nice bath just before bed. Follwed by a massage, then putting on/or singing some lullabies.
Youtube have some great one!!!

Enigma222 Fri 26-Jul-19 04:11:17

After dinner I give my 18 month old a shower and into bed. Read him a book and turn down the lights which puts him to sleep.

blackleggingsandatshirt Fri 26-Jul-19 10:12:38

I use an organic Lavender bath at night time, it does smell lovely, and I can smell it on my baby whilst he sits on my lap. We turn the tv down, and will occasionally play some relaxing music. Night time blinds are a must to give a dark cool room. Finally I have a bedtime buddy which gives off a 'white noise'. Seems to work a treat, when I hear him stirring, I wait until he settles again, even a small tired cry seems to be short and he will get back off to sleep until the morning. We do still have the odd time I need to go in to settle, but this is getting more and more infrequent.

lillypopdaisyduke Fri 26-Jul-19 10:31:45

Routine is the only thing which I think works, and sets a body clock to know when bedtime is, and when they stir in the night hold back for going in. I found a sticker chart for staying in bed after weeks of night time wanderings into our bedroom worked. A gold sticker for a night without calling out for mum and getting our of bed, works wonders.

lovemyflipflops Fri 26-Jul-19 12:32:07

The blanky with 'that smell' - don't really know what 'that smell' is but it's the comfort he needs to get off to sleep. I use a night light which gives a cool glow, and Henry the Hedgehog - Light and Sound Sleep Aid, which give off a subtle noise and light, and seems to help a longer sleep and being able to settle at night quicker than before we had this.

OrdinarySnowflake Fri 26-Jul-19 20:50:30

Routine, and then when you get one that works, dont let any relatives guilt you into fucking with the routine so that you can fit in with their meal/bedtime routine - and therefore go a week without proper sleep!

It took until dc2 for me to realise the sneering about making sure "the baby was flexible" so we weren't "tied to a routine", meant they (extended family) were tied to a routine about when meal times and meet ups happened and as grown adults couldn't be flexible, so expected us to make the baby fit in. I got better at saying "no thanks" or "we'll feed dc here then come over".

It's a short period of your life, dont make it hard for yourself to keep other people happy who wont deal with the fall out.

DontFundHate Sat 27-Jul-19 10:58:30

We are quite traditional here - bath, story, bed. A comfy dark bedroom is a must, and we leave the corridor light on and the door slightly ajar. No toys in bed as our two find that too distracting! but they love tucking up a toy in a blanket on the floor smile

Shireslass Sat 27-Jul-19 12:33:27

Routine, routine, routine.
Bath, milk, stories and bed.
On the way up we say the best bit of the day and then it always ends with kisses and love you.

chocodrops Sat 27-Jul-19 17:33:56

Another vote for a routine with my 6mo but also starting at a good time when she's not over or under tired. So dinner, bath, pjs, milk, book then bed and happily she now settles herself 😃

jobbymcginty Sat 27-Jul-19 17:55:25

A good routine from 3 months bath milk and. Story . Also we use a little night light so if my wee one wakes up he isn't scared he's now 2.5 and has slept like a dream since 3 months

claza93 Sat 27-Jul-19 21:38:09

I am so lucky that my gorgeous fifth baby loves his sleep! And his dummy! He loves a big bottle of milk and a cuddle before bed. Absolute blessing

DamnItsSevenAM Sat 27-Jul-19 22:42:51

My advice is to give your children the closeness and security they crave at bedtime by staying with them until they fall asleep, if that's what they want. I know this goes against all the textbooks but I know I will look back on these times as some of the most precious experiences of being a parent, and I hope my kids will have memories of comfort and love when falling asleep, rather than feeling nervous or alone.

Megansmumsie Sun 28-Jul-19 16:34:44

When my daughter was little and she had trouble sleeping, it was often because she was anxious and her mind ran away with her. I used to tell her I was taking out all the things she was thinking out of her head and storing them in a jar for the rest of the night. I would pretend to pull the thoughts out of her head and have her help me put them in the invisible jar with her helping to 'screw' the lid on. It always helped her stop thinking about stuff that was stressing her out. I also used to tell her that she was floating on a cloud- she used to really like that.

I always think a relaxing bath, moisturizing and then a book in bed helps to encourage a good nights sleep. Now that my daughter is older it has grown increasingly bright and noisy round the back of our house so she sleeps with an eye mask eye and occasionally a fan on to drown out the noise.

sarat1 Sun 28-Jul-19 16:40:50

We always say 'night night' to the 'little boy in the mirror' after bathtime, which is something we are able to do consistently, even if we are away.

Valkarie Sun 28-Jul-19 21:49:35

Wait for them to grow into it. Oldest slept through the night at 2.5, youngest hasn't yet.

RomaineCalm Sun 28-Jul-19 22:59:18

For us it was having a routine. Dim lighting in the bedroom. Bath, milk, cuddles and bed with the same CD of classical 'sleepy music' every single night at pretty much the same time.

When DC were older we then had stories every night so bath, milk, teeth, cuddles/stories, bed.

Very boring, even down to saying similar things every night but it worked for us.

Kb12 Mon 29-Jul-19 14:27:31

Milk, teeth brushed, read a story, cbeebies for 20 mins and she's usually asleep. She loves moon and me so would love these toys smile

LooksLikeImStuckHere Mon 29-Jul-19 14:38:39

We had a routine from very early on, I think even before DS was six months.
When they were little it was bath, milk, book, bed. Seven years later and it’s still bath, milk, book, bed, songs. Sometimes we drop the bath but not often and the rest of the routine stays.

They both have a night light and various cuddly toys which I think help. I’ve spoken to both children (3 and 7) about ways to help you go to sleep - shut your eyes and think of your favourite place in the world, counting etc.

The one saving grace for both children when they are struggling to sleep is white noise and I shall be forever grateful to Ewan the Dream Sheep!

I don’t allow TV after we have started the bedtime routine but I do think that programmes like the Bedtime Hour on CBeebies help to calm it down a bit. Somehow just the songs playing on the TV trigger a message to the children to wind down for bed!

dannydog1 Mon 29-Jul-19 17:01:43

A bed time story and treating bedtime as a normal part of the day routine. Being matter of fact that it’s bedtime and not giving any choices about it

allthingsred Mon 29-Jul-19 20:45:15

Bath with a nice smelly ( lush sleepy for the older ones. Johnson night time for little)
A good story. No screen time at all at least an hour before bed.

Tentomidnight Tue 30-Jul-19 08:55:20

Lots of exercise in the fresh air in the daytime, and a consistent bedtime routine including a story and a favourite cuddly toy.

anniejade88 Tue 30-Jul-19 09:15:08

Having a routine. My son is 9 months and always has bath, bottle and story in dim lighting.

LittleDoveLove Wed 31-Jul-19 07:46:14

My little one is 4 months and since 3 months we've done bath with Johnson's night bubble bath (it smells nice and seems to relax him) then bottle, dim lights and he falls asleep at 8ish. Only usually wakes once 1am for a feed then asleep until 7/8am.

Goingovertosusanshouse Wed 31-Jul-19 15:08:33

Quiet music, calm bath time and lavender pillow spray!

WhyIRayLiotta Wed 31-Jul-19 16:54:59

I used to feel like an expert on getting a child to sleep! Routine, routine routine!

However my 19 month old has no rhyme or reason as to her sleep.

So I bear with the basics, we have her wind down time from about an hour before she’s due to go down. We have her bath/ change her into jammies and have her goodnight kiss routine then she goes into her room. She has a night light and a favourite toy and blanket.

After all that it’s a lottery. Some nights she goes out like a light and sleeps for 12 hours. Others, she chatters for an hour, screams blue murder if you leave the room and wakes every hour once she eventually drops off.

Usually it’s somewhere in the middle!

I have read about and considered controlled crying etc, but it’s really just not for me. I’d rather sit and hold her hand for an hour while she tires herself out than spend 5 minutes listening to her break her little heart crying.

SoftBlocks Wed 31-Jul-19 16:59:39

Lots of fresh air and exercise during the day,

No screens in the hour before bedtime.

Regular routine of shower/bath, a bit of reading then lights off.

But the exercise is the most important thing in my experience!

titsmcgeeisonholiday Wed 31-Jul-19 18:30:33

It's a very consistent routine here - lots of cuddles and stories and the same thing every night. Our 4yo was SO high needs at bedtime for a very long time; so it's a total delight now to tuck her in, kiss her goodnight, and sneak downstairs for a proper evening!

HappyLoneParentDay Thu 01-Aug-19 01:53:57

My daughter and I play with one set of toys or a board game all snuggled up on her bed, ten minutes later we play tickle then cuddle time! At which point she is guaranteed to always falls asleep! 😴
This is my cue to sneak out of her room & downstairs like a cotton wool ninja and pop kettle on......☕️👍🏻

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AlfieandAnnieRose Thu 01-Aug-19 10:10:51

We don’t have a strict routine, but we always snuggle in bed and read books. When he was a baby he’d feed to sleep and Ewan the sheep would help him drift off.
Sometimes I put a projector on of stars and the moon and it also plays a lullaby. I lay next to him til he falls asleep which isn’t usually too long

Catiinthehat Thu 01-Aug-19 15:20:03

We try to have a good routine though this goes out the window a bit in the holidays. Kids love to have a daily bath and book before bed.

Clau133 Thu 01-Aug-19 15:29:10

A good routine helps.. tea, bath, supper if needed, then bed with either a short film, or a story, song etc

Pinklady1981 Thu 01-Aug-19 18:42:34

Routine,routine,routine!!! Since the day my boys were born. They have been bathed and had a story read every night. When they are younger a comforter is key,it makes them feel safe. Definitely no TV before bed or any technology.

Leeds2 Thu 01-Aug-19 19:05:34

Get them to run around a lot outside during the day!

AdamantEve Thu 01-Aug-19 20:58:46

The only way I could get my DC to sleep was to wait until they were super tired and crashed. Otherwise it was a fruitless task. Sadly no routine would work but looking back I wish I’d just relaxed and not worried about it all, they are great sleepers now they’re primary school age!

TellMeItsNotTrue Fri 02-Aug-19 00:06:08

Bedtime routine, same every night and even over holidays etc as I found that they were a nightmare after going to bed late and they felt rotten too so aren't bothered / don't ask to stay up later

Also, no pressure on them to go to sleep, if they can't sleep they can turn a bedside light on and read. I wouldn't like someone forcing me to lie down and basically pretend to be asleep if I was wide awake, so it doesn't seem right to expect DC to.

We also think of things they (and I) could try first if they are struggling to get to sleep, like thinking of lots of things beginning with the same letter, think of a food for every letter of the alphabet, think about what you are going to be when you are older and what your house will look like etc, make up a story, design a new outfit in your head etc

chl0e123 Fri 02-Aug-19 01:11:06

A soothing voice, we say goodnight to all the animals and stars and finish by saying good night moon c u soon! And we don't wake until the sun comes up 😁 After each animal I pause and say na night ducks, na night pigs.... naaa night, and my tone slows down and gets deeper, na night monkeys, na night! Iv done it with all mine it's true if they sense u are relaxed they will be too 🤗

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TakeMeToYourLiar Fri 02-Aug-19 10:11:04

I still lay down next to DS, I stroke him and sing him sings and he nods off.

I am happy to do it. Soon he will be too old so enjoying my little boy while I can

MargoLovebutter Fri 02-Aug-19 11:23:22

Room to be as dark as possible and a fan on, as the white noise of a fan seems to be really soothing.

Rubyduby26 Fri 02-Aug-19 19:26:28

A loose routine, and waiting until they are actually tired to put them to bed! I have tried the 7pm bedtime and it never works for my 16 month old, I have to wait for his tired cues and he generally goes down well!

We also use white noise smile

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