My 15yr old DD is studying (well not studying) for her mocks.
All her life she has lacked concentration but always top sets at school so just thought bit lazy.
We have supported her every step of the way, sat beside her, coached her etc but now it's getting ridiculous.
She was always a 'good girl' at primary. Popular as she was fun. Every homework needed to be coached but she ok as very bright. Never read ever. We bought her hundreds of books. Said couldn't concentrate for long enough.
Secondary school has been horrendous. State comp. No streaming (apart from maths) so excelled as majority in class did nothing. no homework ever.
Reports always good enough.
Major friendship issues as she moved from the good girls to the bad girls and got into boys.
She has made so may rash, impulse choices. No thought of consequences. Caught drinking and went AWOL away to meet some boy she met online!
I honestly had no idea what was going on in her head and she said she didn't know why she did it too!
Lockdown actually a blessing as I worried she would end up in major trouble or dead! Her moods were that extreme.
Fast forward to now and the bad girls have ditched her long ago as wasn't allowed to break lockdown rules and go out partying in summer. I think she was sort of glad of the excuse.
Back at school and new nice friends. I can tell she's a bit bored with the lack of drama though. Testing is constant and again if we coach (night before when she has meltdown) her she excels but these have only been topic tests.
She has no notes at all. I spent lockdown printing off school notes and organising in folders etc. Ignores all this and starts to try and revise from some random website. She cannot focus for any longer than 10-15mins.
She's overwhelmed I know. She has asked me to help make her revision timetables. We must have made about 10!
Last year I got her 'life coaching' counselling sessions. Recently got 12 sessions of CBT. Said neither helped.
She has huge inflated ideas of what she wants to do- need straight As. She can't correlate that with doing work!
Her room is like a bomb site and I used to get so annoyed but now I just clean and tidy it hoping she will make her calmer.
Her mood swings are absolutely horrendous and we all walk on eggshells around her waiting for the next outburst. She is like a toddler making these mad plans with friends then being upset when they say they aren't allowed as pandemic!
She will crash and burn these mocks as 18months of work to do and not opened a book.
She could pass some as bright but she fully expects all As and will be devastated when she underachieves.
I always thought it was just laziness but she seriously seems unable to concentrate and jumps from thing to thing at 100 miles an hour. She is so impulsive without thought of outcome. So so disorganised. She loses everything and forgets everything. Her mind seems so cluttered.
She has no hyperactivity though so I never considered ADHD before
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lockdownloverofwine · 12/12/2020 10:23
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