I don't even know where to start here.
My son is 20 . I was away with work and got a call Thursday to say that my house was filled with police executing a search warrant. Luckily my youngest daughter 11 was at my sisters for the week. But my nt 15 and 20 (ASD) yr old sons were both arrested and taken in. I got a flight as soon as possible.
All devices were seized. They say that somebody uploaded child abuse images from my address during a 10 day period over summer. It now seems after some digging on my part thst my 15 year old and my 11 year old were away with me in Wales for at least half of that ten day period. So it must have been my ASD son. I have gently questioned him and it seems he had some anime porn (?) and it's not proper photographs. But he is a people pleaser and says whatever people want to hear too..... so I don't even know if it's true.
My life has been blown apart. My daughter has to stay at my sisters, my 15 yo is staying at home and my ASD son has to he stay at his dads. I need to find legal counsel and start figuring out how to figure this out. I'm torn between being angry, hyperventilating , vomiting crying and wanting to throttle him. He is normally a total rule follower but at the same time he often does not see the fall out and repercussions of his first choice. For him things are black or white and as these are drawings they are not real people, it's a cartoon and cartoons can't be illegal. South Park is racist and awful but is not banned. Nothing else will happen now until there devices have been examined but that could be 6-12 months and I am not being away from my daughter for that long so I want him to go in with legal counsel and confess so my other son 15 is cleared and I can have both my children back at home.
I don't even know why I'm posting. This is partly my fault too. I should have policed him more closely, set restrictions into his pc or been much more clear. He has struggled with his identity and has had blip after blip since high school ended and his friends went their own ways. He has become isolated and very insular and barely left his bedroom.
I'm scared and angry and heart broken.
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devoedtobitsandback · 14/12/2019 14:23
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