Hi everyone,
Sorry for the long post but I just need to vent this morning. My DSD (diagnosed ASD) has been living with me and DP for just over a month full time after her mum kicked her out. Since then she’s seen her mum once. She was supposed to see her another time but her mum stood her up. Today she was hoping to see her mum, but she had to do all the work - organising when and where, keep pestering her mum to confirm. Her mum went completely quiet on her until about 10 min ago when she finally text her back and said ok. Now they’re seeing each other for 4 hours, no longer because her mum doesn’t want to have dinner with her.
It just makes me want to cry. The whole situation is so frustrating because DSD is hurting so bad and just doesn’t understand. What do you say to a child about that? I’ve not said anything bad about her mum, I keep out because I think it’s not my place and because my own mum and step-mum slung mud at each other. It just pains me to see DSD constantly rejected like this.
Then there’s other stuff, because DP and I have taken over as her full time guardians we have more access to her SENCo and school. Before everything was relayed by her mum and we’ve realised so much was left out about her care. Her mum focussed mostly on DSD social skills but she has so many other behaviours that have been overlooked. She’s got anxiety and compulsive eating, no impulse control or sense of danger (she will light matches if unsupervised, randomly kicked my cat to get him out of her way, will talk to strangers) and struggles with mobility - often strains her ankles and bumps into people on the street. It’s stuff that wasn’t identified before so now we’re getting her reassessed. But it’s all just so frustrating because it feels like her mum has really let her down with her care and we didn’t realise the extent of it before. And she still is, because she’s just not bothering with her.
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Jadems9 · 26/01/2019 11:40
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