AIBU to send teens home now ?

[Jamontoast123]

Hi help,
My 15 yrold dd invited friends over after day out . I said yes but they could not stay late.
It’s now 11pm
The girls I said could stay over ... but the boys need to go .
They are singing and having s good time . No harm but they are only 15 🤷🏽‍♀️.
What would u do ??

[BackforGood]

I would be letting them know it is time to go. Something subtle like asking them how they are getting home.

[Jamontoast123]

Well 11.40pm
Just told the boys that at 15 yoa I don’t feel comfortable with them staying any longer and they need to go home . Bus in 20 mins
Gosh don’t their mothers worry
They are only 15 🤷🏽‍♀️

[Jamontoast123]

Their curfew is 12.30am
So they tell me 🧘🏽‍♀️

[Jamontoast123]

And I feel like I’m talking to myself .... because it’s friday night and all of you are either sleeping or out enjoying yourselves 🙂

[Jamontoast123]

Thanks backforgood

[PickAChew]

Their curfew doesn't have to be the same as yours. Just make it clear that yours is earlier. If they're rule driven, then your rules apply, too, and in your house, they trump any fromelsewhere.

[Jamontoast123]

They are still here

[Jamontoast123]

Going to tell them now 😐 never had to tell anyone to leave before .

[PickAChew]

Then you nerd to be assertive. In my house, we have no boys after 11pm. Please go home now or else I shall call your bluff parents.

[violicorn]

You’re the adult. I can’t believe you’ve left it an hour to tell them to go! It’s your house, your rules. They’re hanging out at yours because they know you’re a soft touch! If you don’t put your foot down now they’ll be round every bloody week!

[Jamontoast123]

Job done
Felt sorry for one of them .... he has a 50 min bus ride !
But apparently he’s used to it

[Jamontoast123]

Thanks good night x

[BackforGood]

Agree that it doesn't matter what time they tell you their curfew is. In your house, your rules stand, and that means no guests (that haven't pre-arranged to stay overnight) after 11, so you warn them at about 20 to 11, then go back in at 5 to and tell them you'll see them again another day, but good night now. Then stand and hold the door for them.

[Jamontoast123]

Yes I’m the adult .
Won’t let this happen again
Just - never been in this situation where boys and girls turn up at 10 and stay 🤷🏻‍♀️ .

[violicorn]

Well done. Sorry to come across as brash but I think you needed a bit of tough love - like the kids did! Now you’ve done it you can do it next time. Now go to bed x

[Jamontoast123]

Good night x
And thank you again