Hello. My 14 yr old dd has been referred to CAMHS. In the past year or two she seems to have developed really bad anxiety & become very withdrawn, preferring to stay in her room and not go out.
She seems to be displaying classic symptoms of depression - tired, listless, lack of personal hygiene, trouble sleeping, not eating properly (she always was a very fussy eater, but now even more so, e.g. will only eat a certain type/brand of pizza, bread etc), showing no interest in going out. On top of this, she now seems to be having "panic attacks" if we go anywhere crowded or noisy - freezing on the spot, looking startled, flapping her hands etc. She has the same reaction if we have to go anywhere and meet & talk to people, especially people she doesn't know. She will no longer come with us if we have to travel by train as she gets anxious about us missing a train / not getting a seat / travelling with her baby brother in the buggy.
This all seemed to start getting worse about 18months ago (although not too sure exactly as it seems to have been a gradual thing). I can't think of anything that may have triggered this, other than perhaps the birth of her baby brother, but she seemed fine with this. To my knowledge there are no bullying issues anywhere (we home educate).
I've recently been reading a lot about how Aspergers can go undiagnosed in females as they present differently to boys, and a few things made me think that maybe dd was (and I also seem to tick a lot of boxes too!):
She has trouble making eye contact. She is obsessed with Pokemon and a few anime programmes / computer games. She is very artistic but sticks to drawing the same few things. She listens to the same (video game!) music over and over. She seems to have trouble with jokes (says "that's not funny", or doesn't like it if she perceives that a joke is making fun of someone). Recently she is having trouble with simple requests such as tidying the rubbish out her room, or emptying the dishwasher ("I can't do that" is her response, or "I don't know"). She paces up and down a lot. She can be quite clumsy and loud. She has quite a monotone voice. She has always been a bit of a "tomboy", and never really had a close friend.
However, I don't remember her always being like this. I know I did wonder about her elder brother possibly having Aspergers when he was younger, but I never wondered about dd until now. She seemed a happy, bouncy child, and never had any "meltdowns" as far as I can remember. She hit all her development milestones. It's just now. There is something wrong, but I don't know what. It seems more than just anxiety/depression, but surely if it was Aspergers the signs would have been there before?
I know no-one can diagnose over the internet. I'm just wondering while we wait for a CAMHS appointment, and wondering what on earth I can do to help her in the meantime.
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WeirdosFromAnotherPlanet · 21/03/2017 01:25
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