DS. hes gone.
he came back today and snook in and took his stuff while i was at work. i dont know where he is staying or who with, or anything.
3 times last week he told me to "fuck off" when something wasnt quite going his way.
he did it again last night and i asked him to leave if he had no respect for me.
so he packed his laptop and buggered off.
i expected him to be back today, tail between legs....
no.
its my fault because i get stressed with work apparently - notning to do with living with a 20 year old who swears at me, lives in squalor, stays in bed until 3pm, wont do anything around the house or even put his washing in the basket....and who has stolen money from my bank.
nothing to do with that.
its my fault clearly, because i get stressed, and because i get stressed it clearly has to be my job - he says i "wasnt like this" before i joined the police
this is a losing battle isnt it. He will never ever see his responsibility in anything and its always my fault - never his - and he is pathologically unable to see anything from anyone elses view point.....(yes - he has aspergers)
so. its come to this. 20 years of doing everthing for nothing - He was a lovely little boy....and i was quick off the draw, saw his differences and went with instinct, got his dx at 7, took him to all his appointments, speech therapy, physio, OT, the many many assessments, called meeting after meeting and fought for support in school, college, (and uni - speaking of which i dont think he will go now - and i think he will blame that on me...not so much fighting for support there though ironically - it wont get used)
can a man with the mind of a child survive in the big wide world alone? seems he has cut me out.
so thats the thanks i get for 20 years hard hard bloody graft. today, on duty, i found a woman who had taken an overdose because she could no longer cope with her autistic child.....i understand that. sadly. i wish she had waited for me before she took the tablets, because i live that life too. Its not always bad. it wasnt always bad. but i dont think he is going to contact me again, (until he wants something?? )
ive no idea what i did wrong. truly i cant say that i think i did anything wrong. i waited until he was 19 to go and get a full time job - surely im allowed that now? and that seems to be all he is moaning about....
but he cant see that anything he does would stress me - it has to be my job doesnt it? he cant see past the end of his nose.
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well. he has gone :0(
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ThatVikRinA22 · 29/06/2012 20:19
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