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Aggression shown by autistic previous inhabitant of our new home. Any help?

(2 Posts)
cybbo Sun 29-Jul-12 06:47:41

Speak to his guardians

izzy2012 Sun 29-Jul-12 01:42:15

Hello Mumsnet-ers,

Our family has recently moved in last year to a new home. The previous owner sadly died from old age, forcing his autistic son -'A'- to move into another house in the village. My mum and dad didn't want to force him to be reminded of his grief of the change he had to undergo or of his life in the house so kept out of his way - of course being friendly when they did see him. It has all been fine so far, until now as we are having building work done as the house is too small for us. The change obviously has been stressful for A and we all understand what he must be feeling. He seems to be very upset and has approached my mum in frustration and an aggressive manner demanding we give him parts of the house like the staircase and the carpets (most of which have already gone) back.

Mum is very sensitive to these sort of things and feels vulnerable, especially as my dad is away for most of the day. I am leaving for university in September when most of the house is being knocked down and built back up again and don't like the thought that she could exacerbate things unintentionally or could under (or over) estimate an autistic reaction to grief and large changes to his life. 'A' has two people in the village who look out for him, but it has recently become apparent that he has been keeping an eye on us at home and the building site without us noticing, which is worrying us.

Unfortunately, as a whole we have little experience or knowledge about autism, and I am unwilling to trust the common views that have been told to me about violence and Autism and want to approach the subject without prejudice.

I heard of what a great community you all were and was wondering if you had any advice of how to manage this situation? We want to avoid any confrontation for my mums sake if possible - we don't want to upset him, want to keep it friendly, so he feels like we are not against him in this difficult time.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thank you,

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