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new teacher/new school/ unwillingness to support - and I work there too so it's totally awkward!

(10 Posts)
ErnesttheBavarian Tue 25-Oct-16 11:09:22

I also posted in primary. I work in a primary school.

My dd has just changed to this school. I suspect she has ADHD and /or other issues making it difficult for her to keep up. She is bright but SSSLLOOOOWWWWW. She gets good marks in tests (eg 20/20 in spelling tests, when she's never been taught in English before, 95% in maths tests etc, so IQ not an issue, but she is amazingly slow)

Several other kids in the class are slow and have difficulty keeping up.
There's a lot of copying from the board which she finds challenging and often doesn't complete. She can't articulate why - fine motor probklems - can't write so much/so quickly, eye contact with board/book?

Anyway, she isn't the only one. 22 kids in class, I guess 5 have similar problems. I have tried to speak to the teacher, about the kids in general who have problems, but teacher just kept replying with 'she' despite me repeating several times that I'm talking about all the kids, not just my dd. (I work in the school and do support work with some of the kids in dd's class, and other classes, I do not work directly with my dd)

The T seems totally opposed to any suggestions that I've made in the past and is imo quite negative, and just shakes her head and says she/they just have to do it etc when I've tried suggestion alternatives, eg printing off material for a boy with dyslexia for him to just glue it in. Got a big head shake and no for that,.

Anyway, in a couple of days I have a P/T meeting with her and a couple of other T. They are all understandably concerned that she is so slow, in addition she fiddles a lot, is easily distracted, disorganised, loses her stuff, and yes, is a slow worker.

Does anyone have any suggestion for how they can help her/ how we can get her to speed up/cope with the work?
How I can deal with T negativity or unwillingness to adopt strategies?
DD is undergoing testing for ADHD.

BackforGood Wed 26-Oct-16 00:05:06

I would start by ensuring the SENCo is involved. Every teacher should be making reasonable adjustments - from what you describe, this teacher isn't.

ErnesttheBavarian Wed 26-Oct-16 12:07:14

I sort of am the (acting ) SENCO confused difficult situation.

BackforGood Wed 26-Oct-16 18:03:38

Well, that will make sorting things for your dd more complicated, but, from what you say, if she's not making adjustments for other dc, then you need to tackle that as a wider issue {when at work} and specifically focus on your dd when you have your parent's hat on.
Whether that's some staff training in a staff meeting (or INSET day) for everyone, or whether that's a case of going down the list of dc in the class and making sure each one is able to access the curriculum, and supporting her with strategies if they aren't, or - if it comes to it and you've done all the advice and support, and this is just a refusal to make adjustments, then you need to take it to SMT / line manager.

Frusso Tue 15-Nov-16 22:58:58

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PointlessUsername Tue 15-Nov-16 23:12:54

Check with the LA if you can self refer to OT.

OT has been a great help with DD for her problems sitting still and keeping focus in the class.

Ohmuther Wed 14-Dec-16 01:18:33

hi prob not this but sounds v similar to DD (DD also has severe school phobia and just diagnosed ASD).
But check out Irlen Syndrome/visual stress

SENPARENT Fri 06-Jan-17 11:31:37

I would think you need to go to the HT with your SENCO hat on regarding all the children this teacher is not making reasonable adjustments for (and potentially putting herself at risk of complaints about disability discrimination) and then make a separate appointment (with your partner if you have one ) and talk to HT about your DD with your parent hat on.

I understand how difficult this can be. I was Chair of Governors in the same school as my son with SEN but I used to always make it clear when I was in parent mode.

Verbena37 Fri 06-Jan-17 12:20:57

Yes ^^ Go to HT about the SEND children and teachers lack of support but then also book a meeting regarding your own DD.

Then in that meeting, only talk about your DD with your mum hat on. In that meeting, don't worry about the other children. She needs to talk to you as a mother about your child's needs.

Allthewaves Mon 06-Feb-17 17:20:02

Yep agree with other that you need senco hat on. Allowances and solutions need to be found for all children who are slow.

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