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REALLY Long Story (Sorry), Autism/Dyspraxia

(5 Posts)
MixedUpConfusion Sun 09-Feb-14 21:50:44

Ok, my DS is 14 and has Autism and Severe Dyspraxia. He couldn't talk until he was 5, he was helped at nursery (they got somebody in, special), then he went to a special school for a few years, got LOTS of help, finished off Primary school in the local CofE school, got help in, special. All was well. Then he started the comprehensive (now an Academy, as of last year).
The entire time he has been there, and he's halfway through Year 10 now, they've done hardly anything to help him. Did a few handwriting lessons with him a few years ago, that's about it.
Now he's in Yr 10, he's getting a lot of homework and gets home and doesn't know what to do, sometimes it's not even wrote in his planner because he hasn't had time to write it down, or sometimes not even understood it was homework. Nobody explains things to him, nobody encourages him, nobody makes sure he knows what he's doing, he's getting a lot of detentions for not getting his homework done and sometimes for not getting his work done in class (he can't filter out noise, so if the kids are noisy he can't concentrate and gets himself upset).
I have had several conversations with the SENCO over the years, she has never been any help and even when I've asked for help, nothing ever gets done. I wasso at the end of my tether, that when DS was getting wrong at school for things he can't do etc I sent a few notes in to a few teachers, basically saying it would be much better for everyone all round if, instead of punishing my son for things he can't help, it might be a better idea to actually help him, since he has special needs and this is what they're supposed to be doing anyway. (wrong, but I was running out of options).
10 days ago it was parent-teacher day. Most people see the form tutor. I was sent to a different room for a meeting with the SENCO. Oh, and TWO other people. So it was three against one. One of them didn't even speak or take notes, she seemed to be just there for numbers, to try and intimidate me further. As soon as we sat down they started attacking me over the notes I'd sent. They were all, How dare you send these, parents should have NO direct contact with teachers, don't ever attempt to contact a teacher again etc, it's not "procedure" (Well I did try the "proper" people, several times, but they weren't interested). My son was in tears at this point.
Anyway, she actually admitted they probably haven't done as much as they should have for DS, then came out with all these promises, said because he has Dyspraxia he's entitled to use a computer to type up work that requires a lot of writing (even though she's known he has Dyspraxia since the first day he started, 3 1/2 years ago and not ONCE has she said this before!) and said if I have ANY problems, to phone her and she'll sort it.
The following Tuesday, I rang her, as DS had homework from when he was off and didn't know what he had to do. Nobody answered the phone. (It's almost impossible to speak to ANYBODY in this school, every call goes to answering machine). I left a message saying he has Art homework for Thursday but doesn't know what it is as he was off school so would be grateful if they could let DS know what he's supposed to be doing. I heard nothing back, DS hadn't been spoken to about this homework, Thursday came and he had to go in without the homework and they just did NOTHING about my phone call.
Also, in RE he said they had a lot of writing to do, and even though somebody else in the class was allowed to use the computer to type it up, he wasn't and had to sit and write it all. After she promised! I just feel like everything they said at the meeting was just to make me go away! Nothing they said has happened so far! I really don't know what to do next. I'm stressed to bits. And he got another detention letter through the door yesterday.

PolterGoose Sun 09-Feb-14 21:53:44

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MixedUpConfusion Sun 09-Feb-14 21:58:03

He did when he went there, but he was 5 then, he's 14 now...

PolterGoose Mon 10-Feb-14 14:06:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Dana2005 Sun 16-Feb-14 22:53:08

hi, i feel exactly the same …
can he type ? i think the best would be to have a statement where its written he has to have a computer .
YOU HAVE TO HAVE IT on the statement…
it seems schools will always ignore our advice as they think they know better…

i am seriously thinking of home schooling...

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