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Feeling a little alone and would love some advice/reasurance... anything.

(4 Posts)
flirty30 Fri 27-May-11 21:31:06

Well here goes, my s (6) has been given the label of (and I groan!) 'Complex needs relating to his emotional beahioural difficulties'. It sounds so awful. My gorgeous little boy who is fun, enthusiastic, caring, honest, bright and adventurous is not doing well at school. He is disruptive in class, rude to teachers, refuses to do work and often hurts other children. Of course I do not condone this. In fact after struggling with a very old fashioned small school ( to put it politely) we entered in to a managed move with another school- a really inclusive and encouraging one. It ended yesterday afetr 3 weeks and 4 days and now, being not prepared to send my s backwards, he is school less. He does attend a (nurture group) behaviour unit 4 afternoons a week, which he loves but my head is all over the place. Has anyone been through this?

We had to tell my s this am that it was his last day at school. My heart was breaking, looking at his disappointed face- even though we told him it was because we thought we could find a better school- we didn't mention his behaviour.

He has not got a statement yet.. we have been advised to wait while we sort a school out first so the new school isn't over loaded with paperwork. He has a resourced IEP and I have just had him referred this week to CAMHS (Child and Adolesent Mental Health Service) for any other advice/ diagnosis that we may of missed.

I am open to answer any questions if I have missed something which may help a reply.... thank you.

TotalChaos Sat 28-May-11 09:26:03

please repost this over on the main SN children board as this one is much quieter. I've not got relevant experience, but strikes me you are being fobbed off re statementing, that explanation re:paperwork is feeble in the extreme IMO. I would apply for the statement asap given government are planning to change the system and get ride of statements in favour of some sort of education plan I think it's called.

flirty30 Sat 28-May-11 14:13:02

Thank you

emilybee Tue 14-Jun-11 21:23:33

please don't wait for school placement before applying for statement as they can take a while to obtain. whoever told you to wait so school wasn't overloaded with paperwork is, frankly, a numskull.. the school will benefit from statement as it will mean he has support straight away.. hope you find a really lovely school for him.. i'm not in the same boat, but a similar one none the less and can relate to the distress you must be feeling.. xx

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