Why are things with dd do complex?

[Blossomhill]

I often think of her as jeckyl and hyde. Some days you would never know there was anything wrong, although obv. there are difficulties. Then other days like today when she is completely off of the rails. Bouncing constantly, humming to herself. We went to Tescos (gulp) and she was walking into people and seemed so, so overwhelmed by it all, hands over the ears that kind of behaviour.
Now do you think the fact that while I was putting some washing away she managed to climb up into a cupboard and eat half a pack of jelly and drink far too much undiluted vimto (which I don't usually buy, we ran out of Rocks juice and needed some quick).
I just need to rant really. I just find it so upsetting seeing her like this as it's obvious something is wrong but how can I tell. I asked her the other day what was wrong and she just said everything and wouldn't elaborate at all. Thanks for listening, feel better getting it off of my chest

[Miaou]

Blossomhill, I'm sorry I can't do anything other than listen and offer a shoulder. It sounds like hard work to me. Feel free to moan and rant - I know that it really helps!

[Blossomhill]

Thanks Miaou, very kind of you.

Just when you think things are getting easier they get harder. So unpredictable

[saadia]

How sad that she said that "everything" was wrong poor little thing.

[Chocol8]

Hi ya Bloss - this sounds familiar to me - and more so, now the summer hols are here! 10 fold!

I will actually be glad to go back to work tomorrow and leave ds to the childminder! Awful but true.

We have done so much together this week - 2 trips to an indoor adventure playground, Woburn Safari Park, Gullivers Land, the cinema etc and still it is always the stuff he isn't going on/can't go on which he kicks up about. He ends up kicking, screaming, whining (which I HATE!!!), crying etc. He has no fear of anything and it's quite scarey to watch him jumping off stuff without thinking what could happen to him.

He has just about talked my ears off - if not then humming or singing. He just doesn't stop, mostly about Pokemon...or "can i have?" all the time.

I asked him several times in the week why he is misbehaving so much and he says "it's just all too much", or that he gets over excited or hot and can't control his temper.

Do you think that little Bloss is experiencing sensory overload like my ds?

[Blossomhill]

Choc - Do you know what I am 100% that it is sensory related. She has been "buzzing" all day. I seriously think that Tescos may have been too much for her.
Some days I am a bit hesitant but if you asked me today if she was autistic I would say 100% yes. she is having an autistic day. Other days I am like no way. What is going on???
I am in a run away and sit in a box on my own mood.

Sorry, I hope this isn't coming across that I am after self pity as I am not. Just need to offload somewhere. Thanks xxx

[Davros]

I would say sensory too and lack of structure due to not being at school. Not much help, get glass of wine now!

[Blossomhill]

Glass Davros, I have a whole bottle ready!!!!!

[maddiemo]

I would also guess that lack of structure in the holidays is a problem.

Maybe make some little books together of what you will do each day and talk about them in advance. I do know that in reality this is much easier said than done due to lack of time. Also give as much warning of the weeks plans as possible.

Hope the holiday improves soon.

[Blossomhill]

Yesterday I feel so bad to admit that I needed to be away from dd. It wasn't her but the behaviour.
I felt so bad when I looked in at dd sleeping. I love her to bits but just wish things could be easier (like we all do!)
I want to be able to enjoy being a mum but when you are dealing with challenging behaviour it's really hard