Dd being rude and not sure how to deal with it

[Blossomhill]

Have put the Horrid Henry books away as dd was mimiciking the characters. Calling children crabby, sour etc. Which to be honest I do find funny and I know the teachers did (although we never let dd see as obv. this is not acceptable).
Yesterday in the park dd was trying to get on the top of the slide and dd was calling these girls stupid. Luckily they were about 11 and I just said oh she's only 5 and is being silly. I then told her it was rude and not nice to say that to people. She constantly tells ds to shut up or that he is a pig, ugly etc and I know she does it at school sometimes.
Again how on earth do you deal with it? It's just another bloody thing to deal with and I just feel so tired right now as it will take years to sink in.
Sorry to moan, just don't know where to turn sometimes

[KarenThirl]

We had to do the same with Beano comics because J became even more obnoxious when he was reading them. Dennis the Menace and Minnie the Minx became heroes instantly and he'd copy all the tricks they played, especially on Dad (who was thrilled, I can tell you).

I did explain to him why they'd been taken away and said that he could have them back if he proved to me that he could read them occasionally without turning into a copy of Dennis or Minnie. It took a few attempts but now he's managing better, although they still get taken away if he goes over the top. Mind you, this could be because he's so much more relaxed and easygoing at the moment without the pressure of school, so things could revert to the usual come September.

J comes out with schoolyard banter as well. The trouble is, most kids in school will know when to stop but J doesn't, and that's when it becomes a problem.

[Blossomhill]

I know what you mean Karen (nice name btw - same as me!)

It's just these little issues that cause problems. I know that she has caused class mates ugly, stupid etc and has even told some of them to shut up. What are the parents going to think of dd if told that? With ds (nt) the minute you say don't do that it's * he listens, it goes in and is dealt with. Unfortunately dd takes so much longer to get through to

[Davros]

I suppose you could try teaching her a different vocabulary and showing that she gets a better reaction. Not quite sure how you'd do this..... anyone got any ideas?

[Blossomhill]

I am not sure how we would do that Davros tbh.

[Davros]

Nor me! We were talking about just this the other day at school. No-one had any answers though

[overdraft]

my 3 year old can behave like this sometimes and she is not into horible henry.She has been like it since going to nursery.I think it will pass if you nip it now.Good luck.I am another karen too xxxx

[Blossomhill]

Hi overdraft, not seen you around before. Does your dd have sn? My dd has a language disorder so makes it so much harder to deal with and for her to understand right from wrong!

[jenkins88]

BH - Hope the social stories help.

For months DS has been saying 'Out my way' in a kind of sing-songy voice, when he wants to get past people. I don't mind him saying this to friends and family as they know about his delays and see it as progress, but strangers just think he's being rude. It's such a shame as it's about the only sentance that he says that makes sense.

[overdraft]

hi blossomhill
no dd is not sn only eldest son.She is just testing the boundries with me at moment.Took her out tonight and she was just being a little sod.
I do have SN son though and sometimes i find it hard to know whether it is because of this or he is just being thoughtless sometimes.
how old is dd?

[Blossomhill]

Overdraft - sorry only just seen this. dd will be 6 at the end of the month. I know what you mean by seperating the sn from just how your child is in general