finally getting somewhere

[jenk1]

ds had an appointment with the hospital psych this morning,halfway thru she said i want to talk to your mum now, we started talking when ds was out of room,she starts asking me questions. After a couple of mins i said "arent we meant to be talking about michael" she said she wanted some background on my childhood, at the end of it she said i had done a good job with my social skills as girls can hide it. I said hide what? and she just looked at me and said i,ll see whats happening with your referral, i realised she knows, she knows i have AS, so i told her what the gp said and she was astounded that the gp had tried to brush off my self-referral,AND that my gp said AS is not genetic-she couldnt believe it, she said "i see many similarities between you and michael" and she asked me about obsessions,routines etc. So at the end of it i feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulder-that someone understands and doesnt think that im making it up, or depressed because im bored like my family does, sorry to go on but in a way i feel vindicated and that i can go on with my life, oh and she said i dont need AD,S i need help with anxiety and managing. So hopefully i wont have to wait long now

[Jimjams]

good news jenk1.

[Fio2]

that must be a relief for you jenk

[MandM]

Jenk1 - that sounds really positive

[RnB]

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[JakB]

That's great news Jenk1

[coppertop]

Good news, Jenk. I know how relieved my dh was when his AS was acknowledged/recognised for the first time.

[KarenThirl]

What a relief for you Jenk, and how nice to have someone on your side.

[monica2]

Hi jenk1 I am really pleased about this, you sound like you have been dealing with so much with too little support, I really hope this is the start of an easier time for you and your family

[Davros]

Jenk, so pleased to read this although it is funny what we on MN SN consider good news It must be great to be listened to and not treated like you're attention seeking. It will be interesting to hear what happens next, I'd love to hear about it if you don't mind as the subject of "what's the point of a dx for an adult?" does come up and I'd like to know in case I can help my sister.

[jenk1]

thanks for all your lovely messages of support, i have felt so relieved since yesterday,just having it recognised is a big help,i havent told anyone yet apart from dh but he has always said i have it and he should know he,s with me 24/7. I dont know what to do about my mum, i want to tell her, i feel that i need to for us to go further because we have hit a really bad patch as i have started trying to get help for myself, she is of the "dont talk about your problems,keep it to yourself"generation and she has always strongly denied that i could have AS, i dont want to upset her, i really dont know what to do though- its so hard to know what to do for the best

[jenk1]

any ideas anyone?

[Davros]

I think you should take your courage in both hands and tell your mum. If she doesn't "get it" or chooses to ignore it there's nothing you can do. Rehearse before you tell her. Then you can move on to trivia, its so hard to do that when there's a big, important, unspoken issue hanging around in the air. You'll find that, with practice, it gets easier and you can just refer to it routinely, whatever she says. Mind you, is she likely to get angry or upset? Perhaps rehearse planning around that if necessary. Good luck, its easy for me to say but I wouldn't like to have to do it. I think you should though for your own benefit.

[jenk1]

my appointment has come through yesterday, i am seeing a psychiatrist-not what i wanted, i wanted a psychologist cos- dont know if this is right- but i have alsways thought a psychiatrist prescribed ad,s and a psychologist helped you to cope with things better which is what i want, but i might have got this completely wrong. My appointment is for 12 august and he is coming to my local doctors which is good.

[jenk1]

has any one ever been to see a psychiatrist and if so can u tell me what they are likely to say,recommend as i an getting freaked out by the thought of it

[MotherEve]

Psychiatrist are good at helping you to develop coping strategies and managing anxiety etc. Don't panic too much. They may well refer you on to a psychologist but it is likely that the psychiatrist will be in overall charge of your care - they will probably want a lot of detail from the past to start with and then what you feel are your main problems at the moment. then they will most likely decide what is the best way to go about helping you.

Hope this helps.