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DD was punched in the face and kicked at school today...

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monica2 Tue 12-Jul-05 19:40:16

Feel so sad atm, spent a really constructive morning with the senco today then received a call 5 mins before leaving to collect dd, that a boy had kicked and punched her in the face before throwing soil at her . She has an obsession about this boy which has become more intense since her only real friend left the school recently.

The boy who did it was excluded immediately until further notice. But the senco did say that dd was standing very close to him staring at him and he became angry when dd wouldn't leave him alone.

I got her home and she seemed very numb but then when I tried to cuddle her she said she would rather play on the computer, she doesn't really like cuddles etc and I know this is therapeutic to her but I felt so crap not being of any comfort to her after such a horrible ordeal.

There have been previous incidents of this nature but I am really concerned as her peers are getting bigger and stronger (this lad is nearly 11 with a 6 pack) that one day soon her injuries may be worse (she has only got a red mark on her face from today). I feel like I am failing dd sending her to an environment each day that is obviously difficult for her to make sense of. She just seems so vulnerable.

I have spent the last 6 months investing a lot of time with the school but we have really come unstuck with her not generalising into the playground the social skills she is learning in her one to one time. She had recently been discharged from S and L therapy but the senco pointed out that language is only 30% of communication and she still has significant social communication difficulties. I don't know what more I can do to address these at school to avoid any similar incidents like this in the near future.

NomDePlume Tue 12-Jul-05 19:41:17

That's awful monica

hunkermunker Tue 12-Jul-05 19:43:53

Poor DD - how shocking for you all

JakB Tue 12-Jul-05 19:44:30

Oh God, Monica, I am so, so sorry. That is really, really awful. Will call you my lovely. I was talking to your lovely DH last night about a fab lawyer who specialises in education law and happens to have a son with AS (reason she's gone into this area). She is absolutely fab and I'm sure, if you wanted to push for a statement for more support, you would get it with her help. What would you want ideally for your DD?

JakB Tue 12-Jul-05 19:57:30


Is there anything we can do to help? Anything at all, just say

Jimjams Tue 12-Jul-05 20:05:05

awful! What options are there provision wise?

shey Tue 12-Jul-05 20:09:10

I am so sorry. It does seem as JakB says that you must have enough evidence to ask for a greater degree of support for your ds.

sis Tue 12-Jul-05 20:09:35

don't know what to say but am so sad for you and your dd.

WideWebWitch Tue 12-Jul-05 20:09:41

So sorry monica.

jenkins88 Tue 12-Jul-05 20:13:25

Poor you, and poor DD. So sorry to hear what happened.

Socci Tue 12-Jul-05 20:32:13

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JakB Tue 12-Jul-05 21:19:33

Just spoke to supervisor S. She is so upset for you. She says speak to the infamous L about her niece whom she got 1:1 for because she is vulnerable. I said I thought that F wouldn't want that (too embarrassing, standing out etc) but supervisor S thinks that this incident would be enough to warrant an extra TA specifically employed to look out for F

Blossomhill Tue 12-Jul-05 21:38:18

Oh honey I am so, so for you and your dd.

I think you do have a good case for extra support for dd. Dd obviously needs extra supervision especially at playtimes etc and other times when situations like this may crop up.

Really hope that more support is funded for your dd. This sort of situation should never be allowed to happen again

Blossomhill xxxxxx

JakB Tue 12-Jul-05 21:42:45

Yeah, I agree with Blossomhill. S thinks that somebody could be hired not to shadow F specifically but as an extra pair of eyes and ears.

heartinthecountry Tue 12-Jul-05 21:45:09

Oh monica2 - how horrible. Hope your dd gets more support soon.

coppertop Tue 12-Jul-05 22:06:34

Poor dd.

eidsvold Tue 12-Jul-05 22:47:11

how terrible

Chocol8 Tue 12-Jul-05 23:11:36

This is awful Monica. So sorry and very mad that this has happened?

Chocol8 Tue 12-Jul-05 23:12:07

Sorry, no question mark required, was meant to be an exclamation mark !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

RnB Tue 12-Jul-05 23:41:19

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Davros Wed 13-Jul-05 06:23:41

Hi Monica, so sorry to read this and sad What do you think about trying to get extra support for playtime etc? Maybe you really don't want to do that but it sounds like its an ongoing problem. I suppose any extra support could be subtle but then they might forget what they are there for!

edam Wed 13-Jul-05 06:33:34

so sorry to read this Monica - I'm not an sn mum but saw this on active convos. I'm shocked than an NT 11 year old could attack someone like this, even if he was angered by dd following him around. How terrible.

Davros Wed 13-Jul-05 06:45:59

Actually, maybe the other child(ren) need some more input?

macwoozy Wed 13-Jul-05 10:48:47

Oh dear, how very sad

JakB Wed 13-Jul-05 11:30:56

How are things this morning Monica?

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