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why are people so quick to judge????

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kieranandalexsmummy Sat 24-Oct-09 13:51:24

i was at or local shopping centre with my mother and ds who has asd and is 2and a half, he was a sleep in his pushchair and as woken up by a man shouting over a loud speaker,well he was inconsolable (i dont no about anyone elses children with asd but he doesnt just cry he screams) so while i was trying to console him i was getting dirty looks from people passing then an old couple 80ish walked past kept looking round then stoped and stared,my mum was walking past them to go in the shop and the man said to his wife " well what do you expect its the way they bring them up!!" my mum tore in to him,but why are people so quick to judge if ds was in a wheel chair or was visibly disabled he wouldnt of said that angryni just wanted to cry it can be hard enough any way with out people like that !!!!sad

Seuss Sat 24-Oct-09 13:58:46

sadangryIgnore them, they can't help it, it's the way they were brought upgrin. Good on your mum for fighting your corner. My ds had a bit of a scream when we went out this morning, no-one said anything this time but I'm always on alert for it anyway so it adds to the tension in an already tense situation. Over now though, must move on! (DH is having one of those 'why can't we be normal?' days though).sad

ouryve Sat 24-Oct-09 15:22:58

Stuff 'em. If they don't like the noise and can't offer you any real help, they should go away. Far away.

ICANDOTHAT Sun 25-Oct-09 07:42:43

Because they are TWATS and the world is full of 'em ...... angry & grin

kieranandalexsmummy Sun 25-Oct-09 09:25:38

hahaha they are out and out t**s thanks all grin

borderslass Sun 25-Oct-09 10:22:13

I've had this many times when frog marching my son out of a shop mid tantrum doesn't do it now he's 15 but up to the age of 13 he did if he didn't get his own way a lot of people can't see further than their "perfect" children.last year I was nearly bumped into by a tot and an elderly man turned and said it was worse inside as there were disabled adults shouting and screaming now I was brought up to respect my elders but I let rip over how my own son was disabled and how they had every right to be there I was so angry I was shaking.

LunnyTunes Sun 25-Oct-09 11:39:57

...well this is my reason for not telling people ds got asd because they blame him or me ...joe blogs dont understand asd/adhd etc

meltedmarsbars Sun 25-Oct-09 14:21:33

Hopefully as there is more "out there" on asd etc, there will be more understanding.

Borderlass, well done standing up for your/our rights!

joburg Sun 25-Oct-09 16:02:57

unfortunatelly there are many casses when kids are just 'brought up this way'. We have a perfectly ok kid in our yard ... he's just hard to be close to .... sorry if i'm tough on this subject, but many times IT IS only the way they are brought up. Try to see it from 'the others' point of view, they don't know what you are going through ... just ignore their mean looks or explain what the problem is before getting frustrated, but don't expect ppl to assume you have such a problem, couse they will not be able to, just out of the blue.

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