how much do you correct

[catkinq]

dd (poss AS, (9)) has quite bad communication issues but she is very confident. I'm starting to think that we need to try to correct her/teach her etc but am unsure how to. We went out with family at the weekend and she was (as usual) chatting away all evening, often to no one (fortunately she does not notice) and usually about something completely inappropriate. At what point and ho do you go about trying to point out that (for example) you do not tell people that their party is boring/the food is horrible/point out someones skin complaint/interupt constantly/etc. Because it is (literally) constant I can't just keep saying "don't say ..." everytime sh eopens her mouth and the last thing I want to do is make her less confident. Should I go for one correction a night? Or focus on one area (like apperance) adn try to get her not to comment on that? Or forget correction adn do an hour a week or formal "lessons in communication"? I'm at a bit of a loss but need to do something. (We cannot get any advice from the school and the ed psyc is very school focused - ie we have been told that the staff will be told to be understanding and the ed psyc has recommended "focused work around her understanding of socail skils and communication" but I'm not sure what that is (school certainly will not do anything as they will not accept that she has any problem.)

[cornsilk]

I was told on a course to focus on what children with ASD can do rather than what they can't. The advice was that focusing too much on what they find difficult can affect self-esteem, which makes sense if you think about it. My ds also has possible AS. We tackle issues through role play and stories (which we make up).

[catkinq]

we do focus on what she can do but I don't feel that I can leave her unable to communicate in any 2 way sense. She doesn't ever really get it even close to right and often is incomprehensiable (as she assumes that anyone talking to her knows everything that happened to her at school that day).

[likeacuppa]

Have you thought of trying social stories to explain social rules? The NAS information page on social stories is here and could give you some ideas. Apparently it's best to make the first one you do about something your child can already do/understand so that you reinforce the positive first. And then work on just one or two things at the time.