Hello, I'm a very new poster, you all seem lovely so I was hoping you could give me some advice with this.
My son started school this year. He started with 3 other children from nursery but is now starting to make friends outside of this group. One of the new friends he's starting to play with is J. Yesterday, he was very upset after an incident at the park after school as J said he would never ever be his friend again.
What seems to have happened was that Son suddenly changed the rules of the game J got upset.
Now I happen to know that J has some level of autism. Beyond that I don't know. What I feel I want to do is to explain to Son that sometimes people get upset with things go wrong or games change quickly and I bumbled about trying to explain that sometimes Dad gets upset if his book aren't in the right places. I told him I thought J would still be his friend today and not to worry about it.
I don't know whether this was the right thing to do or how to explain to him better - I don't know enough about autism to feel confident in what I tell him. I don't want to single out J in this case as I'd like Son to have a sense of all people being the same but different. I don't even know whether J got so upset because of his autism - it seemed typically 4yo behaviour to me too.
I think I'm kind of torn between not wanting to make an issue out of it, or for Son to treat J differently to others, but also to help him understand that all of us have brains that work differently so to have some understanding about this... but also to bare in mind he's 4.
What doesn't help is that I work full time so the events yesterday where channelled second hand through MIL who has him after school some days. She's hugely defensive of Son and was very much 'Son was only being as naughty as the other J, J overreacted.' (she doesn't know about the Autism). Coupled with the fact that Son was exhausted at the end of the day so didn't want to hear anything. I'm going to have to raise this by myself at an appropriate time...
Any advice or views would be greatly appreciated.
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