Hi there
My nearly 5 year old has medical problems (medicated) and behavioural problems. Not yet diagnosed. CAMHS were useless, so his paed in London who has witnessed the behaviour has now referred my son to his clinical pyschologist for a full assessment in London (could be a bit of a wait though).
My sons behaviour is extreme, very rigid thinking, talks at you and not with you, terrible anxiety (is now on melatonin for sleep), i could go on Anyway, many things have been said, from attachment disorder, ADHD, aspergers, ASD etc etc! He does drive me mad too be honest and at the end of the day i thank god for the melatonin or i would be more exhausted than i am.
It was his first day today at a very small school with a very supportive class teacher and very lovely TA who know my son has problems and they are very lovely about it. He was the only one not in uniform today as he refused to wear it and put on his army shorts and said it was "army day today". He did wear his long grey socks and school shoes so at least he wore part of the uniform . His behaviour was as i expected, extremely anxious, clinging to me, very moody and "NO NO NO NO" was said a lot when he was asked something by the teacher. She is lovely and wanted me to stay the morning, so i did. She at one point said she thought i would be at the school a long time when my son went a bit nutty. BUT after we had a chat and I said i would go along with whatever she thought was best, as they are lovely caring ladies, she said about leaving him tomorow morning if i was ok with that.
Now im fine with that if they feel they can cope with a screaming, aggressive child (which they said they can) but i know from nursery school experience that i doubt il be able to get him into the car on wednesday morning as he knows i will be leaving him. At playschool we did the egg timer for leaving him, but it took 2months and then only last 4 weeks before he refused to go.
Any suggestions, should i just bite the bullet, sneak out and leave them with the aftermath,hes a runner so will probably try and escape or hide under a table OR say bye and have him peeled off me then il be left hearing the screaming as i leave him and on wednesday morning do i just force him into the car and out at the other end? i really dont know what to do for the best.
Sorry ended up long winded, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. If i dont reply immediately its cause i gota do dinner/bedtime.xxx
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not sure if im doing the right thing by my son for school tomorow :0(
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brandy77 · 07/09/2009 17:02
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