I've namechanged to keep my thoughts a bit private. Please don't out me...
I'm in a mess. I have 3 DD's under 4, and DD1 has SN.
I have just applied for DD1's Stat Assessment. She has been on EYAP for a year, gets full 1:1, has GDD as a result of her condition & epilepsy.
Her favourite people in the world are her GPs, my mum & dad. She adores them, sees them every day, phones them every morning. They adore her. I need their support.
They are at risk of reposession. A dear relative has offered to pay arrears to give time to sell the house. The resulting equity is not enough to buy a house where we live, and they have two big dogs, which means it would be hard to rent. Also, neither of them are in work atm.
However, the equity would buy a property outright in Scotland, my DF's homeland. My DM wouldn't move there without us. Miss us all too much. It could change their lives, lift them out of the depression that they have had for years as a result of the stress and worry trying to keep head above water.
DDDH suggested we could move to be near them. Great idea. His parents emigrated to the continent years ago. We could visit friends occasionally.
But, I am in a tizz about DD1. She starts school in 2010. She needs support. I have applied for her Statement, and am about to send in my parental submission to 'help' them see if she needs an assessment.
What would happen? If I move part way through, she won't get a statement. If the statementing goes very smoothly, and Mum&Dad sell within 6 months, we may end up moving just after it finalises. Scotland don't do statements, they do CNPs.
What would happen if she had a Statement for 1:1, but there wasn't time to get a CNP before the start of school year? How does it work? I obviously couldn't get a CNP in progress until she moves.
I think this could be a great opportunity, but am scared that I will stuff DD1 up wrt support. She wouldn't manage even an hour without support.
I am thinking that I need to plod on with Statementing anyway, in case it doesn't go through, etc.
I am scared that without her GPs, she will regress, they bring out so much in her. And it is their only hope of a secure future. But I am scared of what could happen to DD1 if I can't get support sorted.
Please help.
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Inatizznamechanger · 06/09/2009 18:16
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