DS2 has a dx of asd but got a dx recently of adhd and didn't really realise how much of his difficulties (apart from s&L) were attributed to the adhd rather than the asd.
I dunno, I feel that all I do is shout at him - when he is on the medication he is a much quieter child but off it - well, I don't think I also realised how much stress he puts me under. I feel like such a bad mummy and that I am really going to affect his confidence because his behaviour drives me round the bend.
This morning was the final straw - I thought he was playing nicely at the sink with his dinosaurs and I went in to check that the place hadn't become the niagra falls and all i could smell was poo. He had poo in the washing up bowl and poo in the sink - along with the dishes/dinosaurs/dishcloths. I'm afraid he's up in his room because I'm so cross I can't even look at him.
DS1 (nt) broke his arm on friday as I collected him from school - I feel that I need a break.
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... or even attributed to being a small child .
He most certainly won't realise how much stress you're under, children rarely do and the ASD/ADHD won't make it any clearer. Perhaps you're expecting a response from him that he's too young to give.
It might help to focus on what is typical for his age and what can be part of his dx. Also how much supervision he needs before he does something that makes you want to tear your hair out. You have to be realistic.
Perhaps DS2 has noticed you giving more attention to DS1 with his broken arm and is looking for a way of getting you to notice him?
You sound pretty stressed, which isn't surprising. Try to get a few minutes to yourself to breathe and get yourself together.
i am so glad you have some help so hopefully your day will feel less stressful
do you get much you time as i find i can deal with ds easier if i get some me time other wise i find it hard work and just so frustrating luckily he was an angel by one day on holiday and it was just me and him
HelensMelens I can sympathise! Ds has a thing for playing with the most unsuitable substances too- though recently he's moved on from poo to spit! Sensory thing I suppose. Ds (9 ASD/ADHD/LD)can really wind me up - he has a talent for it. The combination of ASD/ADHD is particularly difficult IMHO! We now medicate ds 7/7 ( having medication breaks in holidays if dh is around) and it has helped us all - not least ds- he really does not like the trouble his inability to think ahead brings him. Dh is away. I have just shouted 'Bed Now'in my 'dragon voice' - I think he got the message! I hope ds2 arm is healing well.
Things are a bit more settled today, ds2 has enjoyed the structure of school and ds1 with his broken arm may be going back to school tomorrow, dd3 has a bad cough/temperature so she may be off school tomorrow!