I was wondering if anyone else can sympathise or advise really.
It's taken me ages to post this as I can't face thinking about it most of the time.
Ds1 is 7 and was dx with as when he was 4.
He's a lovely boy and I'm very proud of him, but I'm beginning to think that our relationship is awful.
Today started with squealing about me coming downstairs because he wants dh to make breakfast.
Then I automatically ate breakfast in another room because I can't cope with the screams if I eat near him in the morning.
Then he flinched in the car when I sat next to him and complained that I laughed too loud.
He was making muttered comments through lunch about how I was eating (he squeals if I start to eat before dh)- he seems to take issue with me having my mouth closed when eating (says a lot about dh's table manners!
There are lots of other things he can't bare -if I sneeze all hell breaks loose.
He isn't like this all the time- he was very excited to show me what he could do at the swimming pool this morning and is a bit better when dh is at work-I think he finds dealing with 2 adults at once hard.
I am stricter than dh so I wonder if that's it - sometimes I think he just really hates me .
I am often busy with his younger siblings and so I wonder if that's why he is so much of a daddy's boy.
Some of it is sensory, but he doesn't do it with other people - it's funny when other people sneeze for example.So selective sensory!Maybe I make him nervous -I don't really know.
It's got to the point that last week on holiday he came and sat next to me on the beach, leaning on me a bit, instead of enjoying the moment I was waving at dh to take a picture just so I had proof that he wants to sit next to me sometimes.
This has been going on for ages and the cp said to challenge it,which I do, but it's so hard as conflict inevitably ensues and I feel like I'm trying to force him to be with me which is humiliating. I can make him do stuff and I can make him shut up about stuff, but I'd rather he just didn't want to say that stuff iyswim? That's not a very constructive attitude of mine though is it?!
We tried sitting him next to me at tea times and by the 3rd night the screaming was so bad I caught his siblings stuffing tissue in their ears!
Feel free to tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself - I know there are far worse problems we could have.
Thanks if you got this far!
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