I'm posting about DS1 because I'm at the end of my tether he's just turned 7. He has dyspraxia which affects co-ordination etc but lately he's just been completely hyper.
He does a lot of stimming, which we call twirly whirlying, it was hand flapping as a toddler but now he wanders around with a stick or a pencil in his hand talking to himself and jumping about like somebody keeps prodding him with an electric cattle rod. It alienates him at school, he doesn't play with the other kids because he's too busy twirly whirlying - he's starting to stick out and he's going to be bullied. He has no special friends, he doesn't really have any friends he chats with other class members but hasn't bonded with any of them, he's been in the same class with them since he was 3.
We tried to go on holiday in July but had car problems so ended up returning home, this really upset him so he was twirly whirlying like a mad thing, he just couldn't stop.
We've had a student staying with us for the last 10 days and his behaviour has had me (and her today) in tears, it's like a 2 year old in a 7 year old's body. He's so bloody immature and hyper, running around screaming, can't not touch something even though he's been told three times, jumping on everything, everyone. He gets too close to her, it makes her uncomfortable. I've tried to tell him to back off and explain about personal space but it just doesn't go in. This week he's been having a swimming lesson every day, and he's struggling because of his co-ordination but he's standing on the side jumping up and down like he's being given an electric shock, arms and legs everywhere. His teacher has lost all patience with him so just continues the class while she waits for him to catch up/pay attention/come back from whatever dream he's in, so he's not actually getting a lesson because by the time he does one of the above the other kids are off doing it and he doesn't have any idea.
DS2 is 4.5 and a completely different child, I call him my sensible one, he shows so much more maturity in his behaviour and it's really starting to show DS1 up and also highlight the differences between the two children, it's like DS1 is regressing, he's now taken to eating with his mouth open noisily (I have no idea why).
I'm really starting to stress now, I don't have any techniques for dealing with him, I've tried talking but nothing seems to register. He's a lovely boy but he just doesn't seem to be able to empathise or actually realise when he's pushing me to the limit.
He won't share toys, absolutely refuses, he has lots of toys but doesn't play with them, he just keeps them in his room, they're his and God help anyone who touches them - he entertains himself with his twirly whirlying and talking to himself and watching TV. He's not interested in books, it's a fight to make him do his reading every day. It's not as if he spends all day in front of the TV he's only had 30 minutes today because he's either been outside in the garden, at the swimming pool and we went out this afternoon. I'm pretty sure my son would prefer never to leave the house if he could.
Sorry if I've gone on, it's been a stressful day and I really have no idea where to go with my son.
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walkthedinosaur · 12/08/2009 20:21
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