DS is 3.9, and asd (verbal dx at the moment, going through the system slowly).
Today i took him to the local clinic to see the nursery nurse who offers advice with behaviour, i told her about the asd, his difficult and stubborn behaviours and his resistance to change.
Hvae been struggling with more and more defiant or oppositional behaviour lately, ds' speech has improved in the last few months, so not all can be put down to frustration due to lack of speech! Everything is "that way!" (his way...or tantrums or tears)
DS will simply not listen (very extreme selective hearing iykwim?) , DH and I are repeating the same things daily over and over, "stop jumping on sofa, stop swinging on the kitchen gate, don't play with the lights, get down from there,..."
She told me to put down some rules and stick to them 100%, ds needs discipline to show him where he stands.
DS still drinks milk from a bottle (so does 15m old dd), and ds is still being fed by us more than half of his meals as he is so slowwww, and just simply sit there and fiddle with whatever toy or object he has next to him (he has a tantrum if we take the toy away and still doesn't eat).
She said ...boys are lazy! and he is too old to drink from a bottle and so is dd, take the bottle away and give milk in a trainer cup. Also stop feeding him he 's not a baby! if he doesn't eat, don't give him milkshake before bed, he 'll be hungry in the morning and will learn to eat food when it's dinner time. will he learn that easily?
DS is a bit on the slim/skinny side as it is. I simply haven't got the heart to put him to bed with nothing in his belly
I get the feeling all this advice i have been given is fine for an NT child , but not my asd ds.
I tried to explain to her that ds has routines and doesn't take to changes kindly.
What do you think should i follow the advice or not? I'm scared it will backfire in my face.
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