Am I wrong to be upset about this?

[Frasersmum123]

DS2 (2.5 and ASD) went out with MIL and Step-MIL last thursday and went to the park. DS was playing happily when they bumped into someone that MIL knew but hadnt seen for a long time. Apparently she introduced DS2 as 'This is DS2, he is like Stewart and Christopher so he doesnt say much' (Stweart and Chrisopher are children of people that MIL and this lady used to work with, that I assume have ASD or such like).

Now MIL is not my greatest friend, infact I cant stand her, but I am trying to put that to one side, and I think I would have been upset whoever said it. I dont think he needs a to be intoduced like that,he was playing quite happily, and babbling away to himself so it didnt need to be said, and when Step-MIL told me about it I was really upset and I cried

Now I cant say anything to MIL because I wasnt there and so she will know that SMIL told me, but she is coming round tomorrow and I am still fuming. Am I right to be upse, or should I not be so sensitive?

[sc13]

I'd be upset too - what happened to 'this is DS2, my splendid grandchild, and look how cute he is'?? She probably thought she'd be proactive in case he did something very spectrummy and her friend freaked out. At least SMIL seems to be on the ball, though.

[misscutandstick]

How did it go?

I was just discussing this post with DH and we both agreed it would probably be something that my MIL would say - and be soooo totally oblivious that it would be a little unkind, and very unsetting to hear.

Actually once she said to me....

WARNING MAY CAUSE OFFENCE...

"well hes not one of those retards is he?" WT* & OMG , and she really didnt see how offensive it was.

SO maybe your MIL is just ignorant like mine.

[wrinklytum]

My MIL was talking about dd the other day and said "Oh yes,she watched that programme with me on TV,that one you said she liked with children on who were re...err,like her"

I don't think she meant to be offensive,she is from a much older generation where such terms were more accepted,but i was a bit miffed.

In her defence she is very loving to dd.

[mysonben]

That's not very nice of your MIL.
Maybe she wanted to point out that your ds was s/n just in case her friend should try to talk to him. My MIL feels the need to say things about ds even before people ask questions!
But she is subtle with it, she will say "ds is quite shy and doesn't talk much".