Hi
I am sitting here, going in circles, so thought I would ask the experts on this board what you think. Please feel free to tell me I am being over-cautious
DD1 has AS and we always knew that she had difficulties in some areas.
Then dd2 was born and we were totally staggered at the differnces between them as babies and toddlers.DD1 was very quiet and introverted, dd2 was noisy and 'spirited'
However, over the past few months we are becoming really concerned about dd2's behaviour and about the 'patterns' we have noticed which are similar to dd1's.
Maybe she is copying dd1,I don't know, but it has been noticable enough to worry me.
Could I list the areas of concern, please, to see if you think I am going mad?! DD2 is 4.9.
DD2 plays with little figures and completely goes into a world of her own. When we ask her to tidy up, she screams and refuses. She has to take photos of the arrangement of toys before she will move them.She doesn't want to disturb the arrangement, as she says she won't be able to do it the same next time.
She also has to take photos of plates of food/sweets etc.
She keeps asking me to make her exactly the same meal/drink, the same way, the next day/week etc.Ditto outfits she wears.
She refuses to go upstairs on her own and will only go to the toilet if I sit on the top stair.
She hasn't outgrown the tantrum stage and has at least 2 or 3 a day, over the smallest thing. She doesn't respond at all to warnings or to the threat of leaving the room. If I put her out of the room, she kicks and thumps the door and screams.
Restaurants and cafes are nightmares -she will have tantrums wherever and whenever and they are LOUD.
She asks incessant questions, over and over, and will keep on and on and on -she never tires of it. Her constant talking and questions have actually driven me to tears on many occassions. She will not wait for even a second for attention.I love her desperately, but I actually fear for my mental health because of the non-stop questions.
She is an extremely picky eater and has a very limited diet -she has the same thing for breakfast every morning.
She has a very acute sense of smell.
Her talking is still not on par with her peers. She has grommets,as we were concerned her poor hearing was affecting her speech, but people often still struggle to understand her much of the time.
She is very noisy and 'in your face'
However, she is really sweet and often cuddly and is popular at pre-school. They have no problems with her -she is quiet there
She is really bright and keen to learn -there are no indicators of learning difficulties.
So, maybe she is just a 'challenging' NT child? It's just that family and friends will often ask me who she takes after
and ask me how I cope with her.
Despite our best efforts at modifying her behaviour, she still seems to be young for her age. She seems to be wilfully defiant, for want of a better phrase and I am really, really struggling with her.
Can I just say, she gets 1:1 attention from me and dh and lots of positive praise, so I would hope that she isn't attention seeking.
What do you think?
Thanks very much.