Admin cock up with DS's school report - am I over-reacting?

[amberflower]

We got DS's school report today - was dreading it partly because we have had so many assessments and reports done this term that I've kind of had it with them to be honest. Actually, to be fair, it wasn't that bad.

But when I opened up the report to have an initial skim read I then found that I had only half of DS's photocopied report, the other half was the report for another child in his class who has the same surname as us! Fortunately I know the child's mum quite well and after a quick phone call ascertained that yes indeed she did have the other half of DS's report so we each cut our reports in half and did a swap.

But - I am so so . I know I am probably over-reacting and pregnant and hormonal and at the moment I've just kind of had it but it feels like the final straw. With all the issues we have had - DS struggling socially and academically, the assessments and ASD DX, constant stressing and panicking, none of which we really expected - the absolute last thing I needed was half his frigging report going to another frigging parent!

Doesn't help of course that the other child is autumn born girl who is socially confident, wonderful writing/drawing skills, acadamically doing well oh what a pleasure to teach etc etc etc. Such a contrast to my poor little summer born socially dysfunctional (in their eyes) and academically underachieving boy

Am I over-reacting? I am conscious that had we not had all the issues we've had I probably would not be as livid about it (the other mum didn't seem that worried, needless to say . But I just think it is so unacceptably shite! When I rang the school secretary she was like 'ooh, don't know what's gone wrong there, looks like the photocopier's playing up because my original is fine, this has never happened before'. Of course I didn't think quickly enough to say so on the phone but would you not think they would do a quick CHECK of the damned reports before shoving them into the envelope? I mean, I know they have 200 children to sort out, but it's not that hard to get your admin right!

So do I write to the head and make a song and dance about it...or make a simple feedback statement about the mix-up on the 'acknowledgement of receipt' form that needs to go back next week?

Grrrrr. Sorry to vent.

[vjg13]

I think you over-reacting a little but it is understandable.

I would put a comment on the return form and leave it at that.

[reducedfatkettlechip]

Oh you poor thing, what a bloody unfortunate thing to have happened. Yes it might just be a photocopier issue in the school secretary's eyes but I can quite imagine how you must have felt, especially to get golden child's report in exchange.

I would have been livid and would definitely complain and ask for some kind of explanation in writing. It's not on - it's totally breached your confidentiality and has caused you a lot of needless distress. I can't think Ofsted would look too favourably on their admin procedures either.

[reducedfatkettlechip]

I think I'm probably over reacting too!
I was just imagining myself in what could be a very similar position this time next year with ds!!

[vjg13]

I was once sent the wrong child's statement with all the attached reports instead of my daughter's thanks to a clerical error by my LEA!

[amberflower]

I suspected I might be over-reacting

I think it is more the fact that the parent of one of his classmates has seen it - if it was someone who doesn't know him it almost wouldn't feel so bad, IYSWIM?

I shall go and eat chocolate and calm down!