My helpfull (not) Health Visitor sent her to give me some tips on my ds behaviour issues as she HAS mountains of usefull tips! I decided to tell her my stratergies to save her going over old ground and then asked her for her suggestions re:tantrums. Holding was her main stratergy and removing shoes so doesn't hurt when he kicks, have tried holding but hates being touched and goes wild. So none the wiser Said she learnt a lot though!
Soblue - I know dd does surprise me as she is very gifted. However I was thinking today I would swap all of that just to be able to have a conversation. So even though I have a little brain box on my hands she can't really communicate that well. I'd rather she was Joe Average that could have a nice chat with her mum
God that sounds so self indulgent
Dd started writing in Reception but I too didn't think it would be possible as she did have quite poor fine motor skills, thankfully they are improving
With my dd she was severely delayed in her receptive and expressive language skills at 3 but since being in the language unit has now caught up. It's the pragmatics that is the main area of difficulty now!
Soblue - You are absolutely right. Even little steps they make are infact huge milestones for our kids. Example dd does have problems with her social skills and used to find it so hard waiting her turn, making eye contact etc now she sits patiently and gets enthusiastic and even says * it's your turn. The SALT said that to come on that much since Sept is a huge milestone for dd but may not seem so much to anyone else. Hope I am making sense!
Soblue, it must be nice to know that your strategies are good ones but annoying to have to spend your precious time educating someone who has come to help you! And horrid to have to pour it all out in one big go Holding therapy has been proved to be ineffective and often somewhat abusive so she's way out of touch on that one and taking shoes off to avoid hurting when kicking, Homer Simpson could come up with that! So much for the mountains of useful tips.
Will let you know, she sounds quite 'firm' should be interesting. The holding was meant to be me taking control of his tantrum as i leave him to thrash on the floor till he calms down. But he calms quicker that way and usually wants comforting after, like he scared himself.
well..had the visit,with regards play he did at points showcase some of his educational skills hurray! But the frustration, hyper, anger and jumping all over me, left me in tears. She said it didnt bother her but it really bothered me. I felt like it went on for two hours not one and couldn't wait for her to leave. So he could calm down. I explained to her i was already upset as he had a tantrum on arrival at nursery and a friend overheard a teacher say 'here we go again!' which really upset me so it wasn't all to do with our session. I do know we need to keep doing it so he can learn to do these things but i hate seeing him like that. I spend all my time trying to avoid it. So it was good for him but stressfull for me.