what to do...child on bus to school.............

[anniebear]

DD 7 goes by bus 4 mornings a week to her SN school.

There is a boy on the bus who spits lots and shout F*K OF AND S*T lots on the journey

I appreciate he doesnt even understand what he is saying, but then neither does DD!!

The escort mentioned it to me incase DD said anything. she said they are hoping he gets 1-1 transport via a taxi in sep but said dont hold your breath (think they have promised this before)

I dont know what to do. Its so hard as the child doesnt have any understanding but whilst I can tell DD not to spit (she did show me what he did the other day) and will will understand that, she wont if she starts copying the swear words he is shouting

I didnt know if to contact transport myself, but didnt want to get the escort into trouble?? maybe she shouldnt have told me ??

Also I dont want to cause any upset to the boys family but also dont think my daughter should spend 40 mins in a bus with loud swearing, screaming and spitting

any advice

[Mitchell81]

Could you not ask about separate transport, I understand where you coming from as you wouldn't want your DD picking up bad habits. But as we all know it is not the other boys fault either, so maybe getting him more assistance on the bus would help. I think phoning the school or transport would be a good idea.

[meltedmarsbars]

I'd agree about calling the council transport service - a difficult one this esp if you know the family of the other kid, and you know he can't help it. My dd2 got bitten by the boy next to her on the bus - he can't help it either and I know his mum very well and I haven't mentioned it to her because I know it would just stress her and she doesn't need that.

Your additional pressure on the transport service might be just the impetus to get things moving for the sweary kid.

[Marne]

When i take dd1 swimming there is often a group of SN adults/young men in the pool, one of them keeps shouting out 'look at her tits' and 'show me your penis', this really worried me as dd1 tends to pick up on these things but dd1 didn't even notice.

Dd1 does know swear words but she knows that she's not to use them.

I would be more worried at the spitting.

Lets hope they manage to get a assistant for him.

[anniebear]

thanks for your replies

its not a good situation all round, its not good for the little boy, the other children or the escort and driver

He managed to open some little window on the bus the other day and dropped soemthing out....luckily the bus was staionary outside my house

[PeachyTheRiverParrettHarlot]

I think the dropping something was a Godsend for your worries TBH

there's no reason you can't contact transport and say you are concerned becausr the escort was occupied with your DD (so doing her job) and it was clear the boy needed support adn this concerns you

No need to mention swearing etc

I'd be wary of the swearing route as I know someone who was told to take her child off the bus then and now has to do the drop off themselves each day because of name calling etc

[anniebear]

I dont really have a problem mentioning the language though

I know all the children on the bus inc mine have SN, but not reason why my DD has to listen to f*k and s*t screamed all the way to school either

Have been tempted to remove her but I would really struggle getting BOTH MY dd'S TO SCHOOL EACH DAY

[anniebear]

Sorry FOR caps x

[lou031205]

I know what you mean. DD1 has started saying "OH GOD!" (we are Christians) and "OH DAMN!". My friend has confirmed that she would have heard it at preschool. Not major, but not what I want to hear my speech delayed 3.6 year old saying!

[anniebear]

same here Lou, we dont allow ours to say "Oh God" either, can explain to ti DD nt but much harder to DD sn!!