Hi I'm posting here coz ds1 (4) is suspected to have some degree of ASD and I have my concerns about ds2 (2) as well.
Because intervening in the constant sibling rivalry was getting me know where I have made the conscious decision to let them come to their own settlement (fight it out) whilst keeping a watchful eye. This seems to be working well and they usually work through their problems within a couple of minutes. But one behaviour just won't budge. ds1 (4) has these moods where I can see all he wants to do is wind his brother up and will constantly torment him (scream in his ear, splash water at him, poke him etc etc). I don't tolerate it and ds1 is sent to his room to cool off but on the occassions when I have either decided to do watchful waiting or simply haven't been able to intervene I have noticed that ds2 will simply stand there and take it - he will never even call for me, let alone seek me out. I've also noticed that if he hurts himself he just keeps on doing it - he likes to grab the grill pan even if its hot. This has happened a couple of times and after consolling him he just instantly grabs for it again. and when he slipped on a wet floor in the bathroom after I had cuddled him and taken him out he just went straight back in and fell again. The list goes on but my point is he seems to be totally unaware of danger and no idea what to do when faced with it (like call for help or come to me). Is this normal?Am I expectin too much. ds1 has always been very rule and danger aware - usually learnt his lesson straight away so I'm a bit lost.
any thoughts?
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2 year old won't walk away from something that is hurting him - is this normal
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ABitStretched · 07/06/2009 20:15
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