Yesterday we had a few relatives (the in laws) at our house for my b/day. DS was interacting nicely, playing , going from one to one for attention,... well he was being very sociable.
So the comments started 'oh no we don't believe he 's ASD just look at him , he is enjoying himself,...' obviously i tell them they don't live with us to witness some of his oddities , and they start saying ' boys will be boys ,... lots of kids do that !...he 's only young "
Gee! That really makes me mad when they always try to rationalise /normalise ds'ASD behaviours. So i show them the paed 's report only to be met with 'that doesn't prove anything!' [hmmm]
It is i and dh and our older ds1 (16y) who look after ds2 (well mainly me ! ) so these relatives aren't there on a normal day to put up with ds'quirky ways , repetitive words, rituels at bedtime and dinertime, his non-cooperation and constant battles i face with dressing him , feeding him, bathing him ,...
These people have never read a single book and know nothing about ASD yet they think that they are qualified to make comments about ds and his problems .
Tipycal example , my sil is getting married in july and ds is to be her pageboy , i'm worried because i don't know how he will react to the church, the numerous guests many strangers, i don't even know if he will keep quiet and behave during the service. So i expressed my concerns , and said if ds doesn't behave at the wedding rehersal then we shouldn't have him as a pageboy.
sO SIL replies 'he'll be fine ,he 'll just follow all the other little bridemaids , he'll understand!' What the hell , they obviously don't know my ds very well...
I stop the rant now because i'm getting annoyed again just thinking about it
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mysonben · 07/06/2009 14:59
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