I realise I might well be alone in this, but I find it very hard to deal with people's pity when I tell them my son has autism. I know most are just trying to sympathise or be kind, but some have a way of doing it which makes me want to chew my own hand off.
I've put off telling one particular couple about my son's diagnosis because I know their response will be something like this>
"Oh my god, that's awful - I'm so sorry!" and then (turning to look at each other) "God, we're just so blessed aren't we. So so lucky."
I can't really explain why this makes me want to respond with "Oh fuck off. I'm incredibly proud of my son and I wouldn't swap him for yours in a million years." But it does. Lack of strength of character I suppose.
They are coming to my son's birthday party on sunday and the above situation will inevitably come up. Can you give me a quick lesson in character building and some more reasonable responses before then?
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.
SN children
Dealing with peoples pity
catski · 22/04/2009 15:25
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