Hi, yet again I am visiting here in a time of crisis to ask all you experienced ladies out there for some help! I have posted in the past about my son who has faced significant challenges in his little 8 years. It is a long long tale so here are some threads to give background.www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=special_needs&threadid=291630-please-help-can-t-cope-with-behavioural-i ssues-with-ds#5840730 www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=special_needs&threadid=666697-Help-Son-39-s-Behaviour-getting-worse-als o-suicidal-feel#13556793 He was finally diagnosed with Aspergers at the beginning of March. To summarise educational position now, he is in a mainstream school that he says he enjoys, but his violent and disruptive behaviour there suggests otherwise. I know he is showing all the signs of not coping with sensory overload, but I can't get my head around him not going to the nice middle class villagey school which all his friends since babyhood attend. As you can see from the links above I have had a lot of problems with parents not wanting him there, and I am never 100% confident that the head wants this challenge in her school. We received a call about his statement application yesterday from the member of the team who looks at the cases for children with ASD. She told me it is at level 5, and given the complex and significant difficulties he is experiencing she will be recommending a specialist school, or a resourced provision. Getting this statement has been no problem, in fact the LEA have been completely supportive. It is at Level 5, I do not know what this means. This has upset me so much, and I have to say rightly or wrongly this is the bit of the journey with my totally special and amazing boy that I have been dreading. He has already changed schools twice, how do I tell him again? All his friends are at the current school, he is going to be devastated. But I know the current Head is struggling. She has told statementing team that she doesn't see how she can cope with Joseph even with the 1-1 full time support he will recive. She also says (and I know this is true) that he is no longer meeting the curriculum or his potential. Academically he is bright, got all level 3's at ks1, I know he is no longer achieving at this level. What I really need is some advice as to what I should do next. There are a couple of resourced units locally, but without sounding like a snob they are at horrible schools in really rough areas. There is a school just for ASD children, but again, no idea what that means. I know I need to visit these schools, but I would really appreciate any advice on what they can offer that mainstream can't. I know have the right to request he stays at current school with the extra funding but will it ever work? They don't want him there, and I am sick of him always being blamed, always doing the naughty things the other children persuade him to do. I am fed up of the playground gossiping and the constant battle. But on the other hand I know he will be devastated to leave. I can walk to and from school, I am feeling physically sick of the thought of him going to school in a taxi without me. God, we haven't even told him he has aspergers, how do we deal with this next challenge, how?? I just feel so sad and confused, any advice or positive stories would be very very much appreciated.
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oliandjoesmum · 18/04/2009 08:08
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