Is this a really silly idea.

[meea]

I'm due to take ds2 to a parent and toddler ice skating session tomorrow.
Ds2 3 has global developmental delay and has low muscle tone so falls over easily.
The class is being taken by my eldest daughters skating coach so I know she knows what to expect.
I am just concerned that it is far to much for him and that although it is something he really wants to try he just won't be able.
I am also concerned that he may have one of his strange reactions and not even get on the ice as he has some very strange fears including snow.
So do we go for it or is it a stupid idea.

[Davros]

Tricky one. I'm terrified of the idea of taking DS ice skating just because I'm scared of him hurting himself. I know other parents who've done it loads of times. One said he went on the ice wearing trainers, having told the staff why, and it worked well and was good. Might be worth a try? Have you got an alternative or escape if he refuses to go on the ice?

[meea]

It is really difficult as I spend a lot of time at the rink we are well known and while I know my daughters coach will be lovely and understanding.I just don't know if I can face the poor C ,M has lost it again.
I am so scared he will fall I can't see him letting the coach take him even though he knows her.

[Davros]

I think I'd decide tomorrow and see if you feel up to a "worse case scenario" which is what you have to prepare for just in case. Does DS2 know about the session? Can you just decide not to go if you don't think its a good idea without upsetting him?

[meea]

I think I will get there early and let him get used to the skates and try and prepare him for the fact that he is actually going on the ice.
I think I could get away with out taking him as I don't think his understands what tomorrow means.
But I would then feel guilty for letting his problems get in the way.
I don't like to let his problems stop him if I can.
I suppose if he does loose it I will just have to hide in a corner tomorrow when dd goes for her classes.
It would just be nice not to have to worry about how he will behave and how people will respond to his behaviour.

[meea]

Well for anyone who's interested it was a disaster.
He made it on the ice but was scared rigid.
he screamed and screamed and I couldn't pick him up as I had skates on as well.
the coach was lovely but I had to take him off and spent 10 minutes in the toilets in tears.
I know it isn't the end of the world but it has made me see how different he is.
On the way home Dh told me to look at him and think about the progress he has made.
Tomorrow I will do that but today feels really sad.

[Blossomhill]

Meea - it hurts doesn't it . Do think about what your dh has said about teh amount of progress your ds has made. I mean it is small steps but they will get there in the end Hugs Blossom xxx

[KarenThirl]

Sorry it didn't go as well as you'd hoped. Don't blame yourself though, despite your thread title! All you were doing was giving him the opportunity to do something fun that other kids enjoy. Just like any other good mum would have done. Dh is right - focus on how much he's progressed rather than this one blip.

[Davros]

Sorry to hear it didn't go well Meea Good for you for trying, I know only too well how easy it is to avoid things that might be tricky. Hope you're feeling better soon.

[juniperdewdrop]

sorry to hear this meea. Hope you feel a bit better soon hun xx

[meea]

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone who responded feeling much better today.
It's very sad on here today .

[Blossomhill]

Glad you're feeling better meea

[Jimjams]

keep trying different things meea- sometimes you get a nice surprise (maybe not ice skating for a while but give yourself a big reward for having braved trying it- personally I'd go shopping!).