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Taking a break from posting

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amber32002 · 27/01/2009 06:30

After recent events elsewhere on mumsnet, mumsnet have suggested I take a break from posting for a while to see if I can recover a bit, just in case anyone is looking for me.

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Shells · 27/01/2009 06:32

Sorry to hear that Amber. There have been some unsettling threads. I hope you are ok.

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cyberseraphim · 27/01/2009 07:33

I haven't seen any of the threads you mention but i hope you'll come back here when you feel better.

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TinySocks · 27/01/2009 07:38

What a shame Amber. I don't often look elsewhere in mumsnet so I don't know what happened, but I hope you come back. Your posts have helped me understand autism more than anything else I have read.

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misscutandstick · 27/01/2009 07:43

i second tinysocks thoughts

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TotalChaos · 27/01/2009 08:12

I hope you feel better soon amber.

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2shoes · 27/01/2009 08:25

that is a real shame, but i can understand how you feel(wish I could do the same) sad that is MN HQ answer rather than solving the problem, hope you feel better soon xxx

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2shoes · 27/01/2009 08:26

amber can you email me [email protected]

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alfiemama · 27/01/2009 08:59

Oh Amber you will be sadly missed. You will be back wont you?

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BriocheDoree · 27/01/2009 09:02

Amber, I'm sorry to hear that. Your posts are always enlightening, thought-provoking...at times just plain helpful! We will miss you.

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amber32002 · 27/01/2009 09:11

Yes, I'll be back, I think. I might occasionally be in the tea room, since that's a safe zone.

The super race thread and the site stuff commentary on it was just a bit too much to handle. But all I can do is respect mumnset's opinion that the worst of the stuff needs to stay(e.g. about how those with a disability are a burden to society, and how society would be better off if we weren't here, and how asperger syndrome is hardly any worse than a bruise compared to REAL disabilities etc). They have thanked me for trying to say otherwise, though.

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Tclanger · 27/01/2009 09:18

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Widemouthfrog · 27/01/2009 09:29

Gosh, I didn't know this had happened. As a mum of an ASD child, I will miss your insight and input . Take care and we look forward to welcoming you back if and when you feel ready.

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amber32002 · 27/01/2009 09:45

It made me want to hug my son and tell him he was very much loved, not some sort of rubbish to be disposed of before birth

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mamadiva · 27/01/2009 09:48

I don't know you but I think those threads are bloody disgusting.

So sad that you/MNHQ feel that it would be better for you to take a break, MNHQ should have deleted those threads rather than letting them go on and make people feel like crap.

I hope you manage to get yourself together again.

Keep well and will maybe see you when you come back x

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amber32002 · 27/01/2009 09:54

Er, well, it wasn't my idea to take a break, it was mumsnet's suggestion after I asked for help

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TotalChaos · 27/01/2009 09:56

oh. I was hoping it had been a mutual decision to take the break .

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amber32002 · 27/01/2009 10:02

Well, they haven't forced me out, they just suggested a break as a solution. Not sure how it solves the situation on that thread at all, to be honest. But it's not my website.

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sphil · 27/01/2009 10:13

Oh Amber. For what it's worth I thought your posts on that thread were the most calm, articulate, insightful and balanced of any I read. I can well understand how much they cost you to write though - especially when people started badgering you with questions.

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mamadiva · 27/01/2009 10:28

Oh sorry Amber. Thought it was a mutual thing

So they ask you to take a break whilst 'people' keep discussing so called ethics that's out of order.

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amber32002 · 27/01/2009 10:37

They say they don't tend to delete posts that offend someone. I would have thought that the disability laws would have encouraged them to do so, but like I say, it's not my website so I guess if they want to risk it, it's their risk to take. But I so despair of seeing people with a disability really humiliated on there. I do worry about it.

I think therefore mumsnet's view is anyone can say whatever they like about someone's disability no matter how humiliating or embarassing it is, as long as the person with a disability has the right to say something back.

Not everyone with a disability has the skills to do that though, so who speaks for them if not people like me and Riven etc, trying to understand the dynamics as best we can? And the trouble is, it takes SO much out of me. It's not a level playing field at all.

Still sad

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Niecie · 27/01/2009 10:43

Sorry to hear this Amber.

Your insights have been so valuable to me and many others too. I hope you are able to come back soon, if you want to.

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Seuss · 27/01/2009 11:25

I've not seen the other threads and haven't got much time now but just want to say thanks for your insights and hope you will be back. Take care.

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5inthebed · 27/01/2009 11:28

Amber, I can't believe they have asked this of you, but I do hope that you return.

Your insights into autism and AS are always valued, and you have helped me on more than one occassion to understand my son more.

You will be missed.

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whitenoise · 27/01/2009 11:30

Amber. Your posts are always thorough and honest and you never ever fail to answer the questions that people are often afraid to ask. (i had a different name but had to change for alot of reasons - DS2 was possible ASD)

I am also very saddened that MNHQs answer to this is to suggest that you take a break rather than them deleting the threads. I can understand why it was suggested but tbh i am a bit that that is the solution.

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