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Taking a break from posting

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amber32002 Tue 27-Jan-09 06:30:39

After recent events elsewhere on mumsnet, mumsnet have suggested I take a break from posting for a while to see if I can recover a bit, just in case anyone is looking for me.

Shells Tue 27-Jan-09 06:32:29

Sorry to hear that Amber. There have been some unsettling threads. I hope you are ok.

cyberseraphim Tue 27-Jan-09 07:33:52

I haven't seen any of the threads you mention but i hope you'll come back here when you feel better.

TinySocks Tue 27-Jan-09 07:38:00

What a shame Amber. I don't often look elsewhere in mumsnet so I don't know what happened, but I hope you come back. Your posts have helped me understand autism more than anything else I have read.

misscutandstick Tue 27-Jan-09 07:43:17

i second tinysocks thoughts <<hugs>>

TotalChaos Tue 27-Jan-09 08:12:47

I hope you feel better soon amber.

2shoes Tue 27-Jan-09 08:25:18

that is a real shame, but i can understand how you feel(wish I could do the same) sad that is MN HQ answer rather than solving the problem, hope you feel better soon xxx

2shoes Tue 27-Jan-09 08:26:07

amber can you email me mshadowsisfab@yahoo.co.uk

alfiemama Tue 27-Jan-09 08:59:55

Oh Amber you will be sadly missed. You will be back wont you?

BriocheDoree Tue 27-Jan-09 09:02:30

Amber, I'm sorry to hear that. Your posts are always enlightening, thought-provoking...at times just plain helpful! We will miss you.

amber32002 Tue 27-Jan-09 09:11:57

blush Yes, I'll be back, I think. I might occasionally be in the tea room, since that's a safe zone.

The super race thread and the site stuff commentary on it was just a bit too much to handle. But all I can do is respect mumnset's opinion that the worst of the stuff needs to stay(e.g. about how those with a disability are a burden to society, and how society would be better off if we weren't here, and how asperger syndrome is hardly any worse than a bruise compared to REAL disabilities etc). They have thanked me for trying to say otherwise, though.

Tclanger Tue 27-Jan-09 09:18:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Widemouthfrog Tue 27-Jan-09 09:29:48

Gosh, I didn't know this had happened. As a mum of an ASD child, I will miss your insight and input sad. Take care and we look forward to welcoming you back if and when you feel ready.

Tclanger Tue 27-Jan-09 09:41:35

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

amber32002 Tue 27-Jan-09 09:45:26

It made me want to hug my son and tell him he was very much loved, not some sort of rubbish to be disposed of before birth sad

mamadiva Tue 27-Jan-09 09:48:48

I don't know you but I think those threads are bloody disgusting.

So sad that you/MNHQ feel that it would be better for you to take a break, MNHQ should have deleted those threads rather than letting them go on and make people feel like crap.

I hope you manage to get yourself together again.

Keep well and will maybe see you when you come back x

amber32002 Tue 27-Jan-09 09:54:41

Er, well, it wasn't my idea to take a break, it was mumsnet's suggestion after I asked for help

TotalChaos Tue 27-Jan-09 09:56:30

oh. I was hoping it had been a mutual decision to take the break sad.

amber32002 Tue 27-Jan-09 10:02:51

Well, they haven't forced me out, they just suggested a break as a solution. Not sure how it solves the situation on that thread at all, to be honest. But it's not my website.

sphil Tue 27-Jan-09 10:13:47

Oh Amber. For what it's worth I thought your posts on that thread were the most calm, articulate, insightful and balanced of any I read. I can well understand how much they cost you to write though - especially when people started badgering you with questions.

mamadiva Tue 27-Jan-09 10:28:56

Oh sorry Amber. Thought it was a mutual thing

So they ask you to take a break whilst 'people' keep discussing so called ethics that's out of order.

amber32002 Tue 27-Jan-09 10:37:55

They say they don't tend to delete posts that offend someone. I would have thought that the disability laws would have encouraged them to do so, but like I say, it's not my website so I guess if they want to risk it, it's their risk to take. But I so despair of seeing people with a disability really humiliated on there. I do worry about it.

I think therefore mumsnet's view is anyone can say whatever they like about someone's disability no matter how humiliating or embarassing it is, as long as the person with a disability has the right to say something back.

Not everyone with a disability has the skills to do that though, so who speaks for them if not people like me and Riven etc, trying to understand the dynamics as best we can? And the trouble is, it takes SO much out of me. It's not a level playing field at all.

Still sad sad

Niecie Tue 27-Jan-09 10:43:50

Sorry to hear this Amber.sad

Your insights have been so valuable to me and many others too. I hope you are able to come back soon, if you want to.

Seuss Tue 27-Jan-09 11:25:09

sadI've not seen the other threads and haven't got much time now but just want to say thanks for your insights and hope you will be back. Take care.

5inthebed Tue 27-Jan-09 11:28:33

Amber, I can't believe they have asked this of you, but I do hope that you return.

Your insights into autism and AS are always valued, and you have helped me on more than one occassion to understand my son more.

You will be missed.

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