Quite agree, should be X who has CP or similar. The little girl who has CP that I work with certianly does not suffer, she is always happy and full of life. Despite being in a wheelchair, tube fed and so on, SHE enjoys the life that she has.
I had the same with my ds's latest report from his cardiologist, it said he 'suffered' from autism. It certainly can make life difficult for him but I wouldn't say he actually suffers from it. Strange word to use.
Yep, when J realises how different he is from other kids and bites/ hits himself saying that he's a naughty boy and wishes he was dead, he is suffering from autism. He's bright enough to see how different he is and it hurts him.
I can understand what people mean when they say we're 'suffering from' a disability at times in our lives. But 'suffering' suggests a permanent state of pain and the endurance of that dreadfulness, a person bravely withstanding the neverending awfulness of life.
All of us on this earth feel that way sometimes, and certainly the days when (for example) I'm in huge pain with my arthritis I can truly say I'm suffering. And some people with disabilities have a heck of a job coping with life. I suffer when I ask for help with something with the ASD and people bully me instead. I suffer when people bung me in noisy perfumey rooms and get cross with me with reasons I don't understand. But there's joy in my life too. I don't want my life defined by my 'suffering'. It's a really negative way to view me, I think.
My dd suffers with her cp (well, the side effects of recurrent chest infections, epilepsy, more hosipital tests than you could shake a stick at)...But I can see how some people with CP wouldn't be suffering from it, and also why it winds you up 2shoes.